She's conveyed the most personal & sincere feelings about me, she says I'm 'perfect' ( & admittedly, it's been perfect ) She's brought up marriage, children, & even mentioned running off to vegas once =O
So all that said, Just understand, this is not a ' Is she into me ' discussion.
But in the last couple weeks she's become extremely scapish ( to the point of almost not seeing me ) The excuses change, but the message is basically the same. she makes herself unavailable by whatever means she can. & she'll convey it in a manner to make the biggest impact on me. Her behavior is really just 'nuts', she says things she knows will elicit a sad or dissapointed response, & tries to take that straight to ' So are you dumping me ?!? ' ... & I think she's trying to draw me into leaving her, but would not admit it for the life of her. & I just Cannot believe that's what she wants...
I swear, I've been nothing but loving & open ;o\
How can I stop this game, make her feel safe, & open up to me?
2006-12-18 05:01:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She probably realized she revealled too much and has had second thoughts...and if you are pressing the issue and she is pulling back, start looking for the local Sherrif to deliver a restaining order - it is not legal to stalk anyone in the US.
2006-12-18 05:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mikey ~ The Defender of Myrth 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Guy A is abusive. I'm not trying to be mean but there is no polite way to say this.. the fact that you're considering taking back a guy who abuses you shows you have some deep insecurities. I would say that alone is enough to not consider him ever again. Guy B is a lot more reserved as you've noticed. You shouldn't compare him to A in the sense of A invites you over all the time and B doesn't. You were married to A of course he'll be ok inviting you over. B on the other hand is someone who likes to take things very slow. If you don't want to go that slow then he's not right for you. Respect his space. It doesn't sound like he's hiding anything, it just seems like it takes longer for him to feel comfortable around people and let them in so give him a chance to grow more comfortable with you and he'll probably start inviting you over more. If you want him to get the picture that it kinda bothers you tell him, or just don't invite him over to your place as often and meet out somewhere. Basically I'd choose B, guy A had his shot and he was abusive. He could have changed but you'll never really know until you get into a massive argument and you see how he reacts. If you really care about him that much though, I would just stay friends for now and watch how he treats other girls he dates so you can see if that abusive pattern is still there. Good luck
2016-05-23 04:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by Diane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women jump into relationships so fast wanting and thinking they are feeling love right off the bat. As soon as they step back and look at the whole picture they realize they have moved too fast. how do I know this? Well I used to be one of these types. I tried to always find the good in people and ended up "loving" qualities that I didn't find in previous relationships. I jumped into relationships too fast not realizing that two months is not enough time to know what True Love and everlasting commitment really is.
You may want to try to talk her through this if you want to be totally committed to this woman. She may be scared or she doesn't see a potential husband in you at the moment. This does not mean she possibly couldn't in the future. You can also give her space for the time being but still show her you care for her.
2006-12-18 05:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is making excuses not to see you, is because she doesn't want to see you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you the truth.
She has dropped subtle hints has tried to avoid you.,,, sorry, but that spells "leave me alone".
For what you've described, she either have someone else or came back to whomever she was seeing before you and she has no interest on being with you. So stop pushing the situation and have some dignity, does she have to be rude for you to understand that she doesn't want to be with you?
It seems to me that you were the "rebound" guy. The quarterback is back on the field, so you have to take the bench.
Sorry
2006-12-18 05:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thing is you can't MAKE her do anything.
You can do what you've been doing, which is try to be understanding and be loving and open... she is obviously having personal issues so... the end of it is: ARE YOU GOING TO PUT UP WITH IT?
Thats all you can do. People have issues, you can't fix them. You can try and do your best... question I have for you: Do you want to be in a relationship with a woman who 1) treats you this way and 2) has so many issues?
2006-12-18 05:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking about a Vegas wedding after dating 60 whole days- sounds like she's living on Planet Hollywood.
Sorry, but it seems like the fire of infatuation has burned off and all that BS about marriage/kids/Vegas was just that- BS. You can't "make" her do anything. She's done with you and hopes you'll get the hint.
2006-12-18 05:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps there is more than you know...Perhaps she has been so terribly hurt in the past...She obviously loves you and wants to be with you, But the thought of more pain is unbearable. Stand by her side and let her know you are there when she is ready. If she is worth it you can stand the test of time. Be patient and understanding.
2006-12-18 05:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by Cheri S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit her on the head with a caveman's club and drag her home by her hair and make a fire and cook her food. nah, just kidding. just constantly re-assure her of your pure intentions. show her you are giving 100% 24/7 and she will appreciate that.
2006-12-18 05:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by JACK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just straight up ask her why she is avoiding you.
Let her know how you cherish the time you spend with her
2006-12-18 05:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some space as that is what she is asking for and let her know that you will be waiting when she is ready to return
2006-12-18 05:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋