just asking. is it that they don't want their child's imagination to develope? or perhaps they want their depth perception to be off? or is it to use as a babysitter? i can understand mabe a tiny bit of tv is ok if there r no commercials and is interactive, as long as the parent interacts with the child. but i've seen parents plop newborns right infront of that thing. do they think they can even understand what is happening?do they think it's healthy? i've seen people use it as a babysiitter for toddlers... all day. why have kids if u don't want to enjoy them?
2006-12-18 05:00:24 · 18 answers · asked by janie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The parents have no insight into what they're doing to their kids. Kids - the younger, the more impressionable - learn from observation. They're too little to try things out themselves. Used to be (early 1900s) it was with the mother who stayed with them, taught them how to cook, clean, care for things, offer assistance, responsibility, etc. Now, kids aren't getting any of that. Sure, they get griped at for NOT caring for their things and NOT cleaning up and NOT valuing others but they haven't been taught to. They don't learn any common social skills necesary to interact. These are the kids that demand things. These are the kids that have blow-ups in school because they don't want to do something and don't think they have to. These are the behavior problem kids....or the kids that are so secluded that they're afraid of any social activity.
Why do parents do that? I really don't think they would if they knew what affect it would have on their children. I don't think they understand THEY are the ones that are supposed to teach their children. Honestly, kids don't know the appropriate way to act unless we teach them. (No, yelling at them when they don't act right doesn't cut it if we've never taught them and corrected them compassionately.) And NO, it's not the school's responsibility to do that.
Good question. Now, how do we get those parents to wake up?
2006-12-18 05:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
janie, I am going to get a big fat "thumbs down" for this. But I don't really care.
I have a four year old daughter who got invited to see the "Princesses on Ice". My sister also has a daughter the same age and bought them the tickets. I was so excited and I just knew that Izabella would be too.
We got there and bought souvenirs (which are ridiculously overpriced) and got our seats. I'm not kidding, fifteen minutes into the show, Izabella got wrestless and wanted to leave so she could play with her niece. I was so embarrassed and thought she was so rude for not wanting to watch "the show". I became frustrated and had to play patty-cake and other games with her until the show was over.
I got home and told my husband what happened. He started laughing and told me to think about what I had learned that night.
I learned that I am a very good mother, and my daughter would rather play than watch stupid superficial "princesses" skate.
I learned that there is NO substitute for parenting, not even a TV.
My daughter learned that PLAYING is much more fun than WATCHING.
ps I have two other children who are the same way. We have one TV and rarely use it. I get my housework done while my children play ALL DAY. If your children never learn to "play", then they will bother you and you will not be able to get things done. For all of you who criticize, my daughter will always know that "mom" is never to busy to be with her.
For the "chic" below me: I think that being a stay at home mom is a lot harder than being a working mother. I tried to do both, but it didn't work out for the "best interest" of my children. Each to their own. I do a lot more clean-up than the norm, I just have the kids help out and this teaches them responsibility. The alternative.....having them watch responsibility and not follow through.
2006-12-18 05:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i dont let my kids watch tv that much, i often sometimes on weekend turn the tv off and tell them to go outside and play.
my youngest (twins 5 years old) dont get more then 30mins during the weekday and 2 hours in the weekend, at that age id rather they play with other children and toys.
my eldest two (13 and 10) only get an hour or two on school days and no more then 4 on a weekend.
my eldest protests alot, he hates it because all his friends can watch all the tv they want, but he is also the fittests and the only one not getting detetnion every week for not doing homework!
2006-12-18 08:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It ticks me off. at 19 i won't be able to stand it and my Fiance is the comparable way. He substitute into raised in a house the place the mothers and fathers swore often on the babies and then advised the babies they weren't allowed to declare those words. no longer precisely effective parenting. we can have not any tolerence for that language in our abode or exterior of it. comparable is going for drugs and smoking. Alcohol we are unsure of. the two one human beings have been accepted to drink responsibley underage yet neither each and every person is drinkers now.
2016-10-18 11:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't plop my kids in front of the tv all day because I don't enjoy them or want to play with them, but sometimes I got to for 30-1 hr will I clean so my kids don't live in a filthy home, and so that they can have clean clothes to wear. I guess I need to learn some new parenting skills from you because you must be super mom if you can cook , clean, do laundry, shower, etc. With nevre letting your kids watch any tv.
2006-12-18 08:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Luv_My_Baby 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why is TV considered so BAD? My toddler gets TV time AND mommy time throughout his day. Mommies need breaks too so we can do laundry, dishes, clean..... We watch his shows together and he learns a lot from TV - I don't let him watch the bugs bunny and tom and jerry shows, he watches noggin, sprout, playhouse disney. It's so stero-typed that kids who sit in front of the TV are obese b/c apparently they sit there with "pop and sugar" & screws up their "depth perception" Anymore, children's television programs are educational. My toddler has a HUGE imagination due to TV. You must not have children yet, either that or a very messy home. why are you on the computer, shouldn't you be off "enjoying" your children???
2006-12-18 05:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by mms1575 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why do some parents plop themselves down in front of a computer all day asking stupid questions?
Just asking. ;)
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I have to comment on the ice skating show thing- that is a typical 4 yr old. There are many kids that age that don't have the attention span to sit and watch an ice skating show be it with princesses or not. Don't fool yourself into thinking it's because she doesn't watch tv. She's old enough where she should have sat there and watched the show longer than she did. Maybe you haven't worked enough on discipline and appropiate behavior when out in public? Just a thought.
2006-12-18 05:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by Alison 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Well, if you just park them in front of a blank wall they won't stay for long.
HOnestly though, I agree w/ you that some viewing of the right kind of programs is okay. I think too much squelches their creativity.
I also understand that people's lives are incredibly stressful and over scheduled. The days of mom staying home to raise the kids are rare.
Most of us are doing the best we can w/ what we have.
2006-12-18 05:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Whoa, let's tone down the righteous indignation just a bit, shall we?
We must assume that, for the vast majority of parents, they want what is best for their kids, wouldn't you agree? Therefore, I think that many parents haven't heard of the very recent research that indicates that early and frequent television viewing is harmful to children's imaginations, attention span and social development.
And let's face it, the plethora of so-called "educational programming" aimed at the under-3 set is designed to encourage, rather than discourage, television viewing by babies and toddlers.
Lastly, I think there are times when parents just want to get something done, like sorting the laundry, finish the grocery list, scrub the tub, that are best accomplished without a baby on one's hip.
2006-12-18 05:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by OK yeah well whatever 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well Janie, I think we just want to plop our kids down in front of the TV with a big bowl full of sugar and soda, so that we can have some peace and quiet while we study up on how to be great parents, like you!
2006-12-18 05:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋