christian & catholic?

Question

I just got engage last month but there is a slight problem I am Christian and is a catholic. I really want a church wedding, but I think It’s going to be a problem with his family and mine… Any ideas on what I should do????

Answer 1

Well, you should tell him how you feel !!!

Answer 2

Why on earth do you think there would be a problem? Christians marry other denomination Christians all the time in whatever church suits them best.
Perhaps a more important question for you to think about is how come you're engaged to someone and you haven't even learned enough about his beliefs to know that he's a Christian too?
If your faith was not important enough to discuss before getting engaged, then why should it suddenly become so important when you start planning the wedding?
If neither of you feels particularly strongly about religion, then agree on what you both want, plan it, and tell both families they'll just have to live with it.
But make sure you can present a united front when the nitpicking starts!

Answer 3

People on here tend to be extremely harsh when it comes to weddings involving 2 different religions. I've noticed it even more so when it involves Catholics and any other religion. The bottom line is that it is a valid issue and concern when planning a wedding because most likely, as much as you and your fiance may be cool about the whole thing, your families will have strong opinions on what should be what. Lots of people would tell you that you shouldn't be concerned what they say, and if you are you're getting married for the wrong reason. Wrong again. Families are involved in weddings in many ways, and it's only natural to want everyone to be happy and celebrate your wedding. My suggestion would be to get married outdoors.

Anyway, always do what makes you happy. It will be ok! Good luck!

Answer 4

The only problems you may experience are emotional shocks at finding too little to fight over. Catholics and the Orthodox are the original Christianity and their services are the original Christian services. They still use as their base the services left by Peter, James and Mark. In fact James and Marks' liturgies are still in active use, Peter's service is no longer complete but the Catholic Easter Vigil service is quite close to what we still have of it.

This is only a problem if you permit it to be a problem. Two people rarely wed, generally families wed families. You two will be together for a very long time. The biggest problem a non-Episcopalian, non-Lutheran tends to have with a Catholic service is that it is relatively long because it involves reading an old testament reading, a psalm, one of the new testament letters and a Gospel reading. Further it involves a lot of prayers because marriages need a lot of prayer and communion with God.

Education is the key. Most Protestants believe things about the Catholic Church that have no basis in reality. There is a wonderful book called "Home Sweet Rome," by Scott and Kimberly Hahn. They were both evangelical presbyterian theologians. He was a scripture scholar. He ended up Catholic at the end and finally she did too. It is a good book for you because it is written by someone who shares an evangelical protestant viewpoint and was shocked to find the Catholic Church more scriptural than his own. It may give you an idea of how to let down your preconceptions and help your family understand that the conflict is really in people hearts and not in fact something that is real. While there is no reason for you to become Catholic, it is very important you understand this part of your husband's life and you think now about how your children will experience it.

If you choose a Protestant wedding, he may well find it a problem, or not one at all. Most Protestant services have less interaction in them than Catholic services and tend to have less scripture in them, particularly baptist and other sectarian churches. He might find that a positive thing or a deeply negative thing. Protestants tend to view fellowship as the important issue and Catholics tend to emphasize worship. Also Protestants tend to see singing as as worship and Catholics tend not to. Protestants tend to emphasize written and verbal expressions while Catholics tend to emphasize visual and physical expressions of worship.

Answer 5

First of all, Catholics are Christians. Secondly, what does your husband want? Obviously he wasn't dead set on a Catholic wedding, but would he mind if you had a Protestant one? Would his family? Keep in mind that you marry into the family and grudges can make the holidays no fun. :)

What about a non-denominational chapel? Chapels tend to be a lot less threatening all around.

If all else fails, you could get your bridal pictures done in a church. Good luck (just think of all the fun yall are gonna have with kids and religion!)

Answer 6

You should probably start by finding out more about Catholicism. Catholics are Christians. There are two generally recognized branches of Christianity - Protestant and Catholic. They are both Christian. Catholics are usually married in churches also. It's mainly deciding whose church you will be married in, not church or no church. The first order of business is pre-marital counseling. Find a Christian counselor (Protestant or Catholic) who you are both comfortable with. He or she will help you figure out important issues together before you get married. Things like what church you will go to after you are married, how you will raise your children, and how you will explain your decisions to family members on both sides. This is very important to do before you get married. Remember the marriage is more important that the wedding.

Answer 7

This is not just a wedding issue, but a life issue. Probably, before the engagement, this should have been discussed. Is there any way to compromise? Would one of you be willing to give up your religion? Or maybe even both of you? Please try to remember that this will also be an issue for holidays, religious days, as well as with possible children.

I'm personnally agnostic, but my bf is Roman Catholic. We have been together for a couple of years, and discussed this already, though we currently have no plans for marriage.

These issues should all be discussed NOW so that no major problems will be caused later. And remember, this is not just YOUR special day, but HIS as well.

Answer 8

You should have had this talked out before you got engaged! You need to have a serious talk asap with your man to figure out how you are going to handle religion, values, ethics, children, etc. in your family. By the way, Catholics are Christians, too, you just may be one of the protestant denominations. If someone Catholic marries someone who is not, the latter must agree to raise the children according to the Catholic faith. You need to go see your pastor and his priest, and get this all figured out right away.

Answer 9

Catholics typically get married in a church. So if you want a church wedding, no problem there. But you can always have a reception after wards where you two can exchange your own personal vows.
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Churches are very friendly when it comes to your wedding, If you discuss your intentions with the priest, I'm sure he can work in your desires with the wedding ceremony. Congrats!!

Answer 10

when i get married ill have the same problem and at first he was fine with a christian wedding but then he remembered he promised his grandsomething that he would have a catholic wedding-i know very little about catholic traditions and he rarely goes to church actually he hasnt been since weve been dating i dont really know what our families think because we re not engaged so we dont talk to them about it but i dont think his parents would mind if it were christian but i dont know what mine would think



someone told me that the wife should convert to husbands religion

Answer 11

That shouldn't be a problem at all...if your fiance is Catholic then you should be able to marry in the Catholic Church. You won't be able to have a full Mass, because you can't take Communion, but as long as one of the couple is Catholic, they will do the ceremony.