Well where can I start I was with my ex boyfriend for almost two years. We broke up and he went overseas due him being in the military and I live here in the states. We have remained friends best friends since our break up witch was over a year ago. But thru out that year of us talking..We have still been sexual with each other..tell each other we love one another talked about our future togehter our kids..he supports me with everything that I do.we talk on the phone every single day... only thing is I asked him if we were getting back together he says he dont wanna talk about it until he see's me face to face..then the other day we were on the phone he thought i had fallen asleep on him, and he said to me baby i love you so much im going to marry you I promise. but im still confused because we are not offically boyfriend and girlfriend right now and he said he does not want to talk about it right now..can any one help me do you think he is playing games with me?
2006-12-18 04:56:47 · 6 answers · asked by Life It Is What It Is 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not playing games. I think he's got someone overseas and is waiting to be back in the U.S. permanently before he commits. It's a cop-out to not label your relationship while he is way - less guilt on his part. Ask him the "hard" questions you have been thinking about. However, be prepared for the "hard" answer. People tend not ask the "hard" questions because they are afraid of the answer or they know the answer but don't want to actually hear it because hearing gives it meaning, makes it real.
2006-12-18 05:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is playing games but it sounds like he is just young. First of all cut out the sex and talking on the phone constantly...... you are too available and what reason does he have to work on your relationship? Sometimes guys just need a little help. Ask him if he wants to marry you.... bottom line. Because if he is military he could be sent anywhere and the only way you will be going along is to be married. If he balks at marriage.... well you have your answer. Because if a guy really wants to be with someone he will figure it out.
2006-12-18 13:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a man's perspective, I don't think he's playing games. I think he may confused as to what he really wants. There is also the chance that he's lonely, and knows it. So he tells you what you want to hear to keep you around, but runs at the sign of committment.
Here's what I would do. Respect his wishes. Don't talk about it. But that goes both ways, if he doesn't want to talk about a bigger committment, then don't talk to him about marriage, or kids, or love. If it comes up, simply say, "Honey, I really want you to figure our what you want, so I'm not going to talk about our future plans until you know for sure what you want."
Remain friends, because friends are always good to have. But let it be a friendship and look at it as such. Move your life forward. If he sees you moving on, he'll finally make his decision. But remember, with this approach, good or bad, you need to accept his decision.
Good luck!!
2006-12-18 13:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Joe L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really cant say what's going on, but i think he wants to make it a surprise for you. He still wants you to know he loves you, and thats why he talks with you everyday, but he wants it to be special when he pops the question, or at least that's my take on it
2006-12-18 13:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by chance m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
playing you along get him out of your life sooner the better......
2006-12-18 13:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by ....... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keeping you on the string til he gets home and can see what he can get.
2006-12-18 12:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋