I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR 4 1/2 YEARS BUT HE MOST OF THE TIME PUT ME SECOND ALL HE REALLY CARED WAS BOUT BEIN A PLAYER SHOULD I STILL KEEP HIM AS A FRIEND OR NOTHIN AT ALL I STILL TALK TO HIM AND AT TIMES HE TELLS ME THAT IM THE ONLY ONE WHAT SHOULD I DO IF IM TRYIN TO FORGET HIM N TRYIN TO GET INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP ?
2006-12-18 04:45:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should just let it go. What kind of friend would he be if he treated you that way in the relationship, which is suppose to be even more special than a friend? i mean if he cant commit to that whos to say hed commit to being just a friend...or part time friend when it suits him? Think about it, dont be a doormat. Shake him off and move on with your head held high.
2006-12-18 05:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by good_girl_rose2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on! Don't allow yourself to be trapped into a relationship that you seem to have already figured out is not for you.
4 1/2 years is a long time, but longevity has its place when it comes to relationships that really have been more of a liability than an asset. Men have a tendency to NOT want you and then not want anyone else to have you either; so, don't give into emotional games to keep you on standby. You could miss an opportunity to have a realtionship with someone who really cares, by keeping this "friend" on the sideline.
2006-12-18 04:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him and move on. relationships are hard enough without your past clinging on. chose between either the promise of love in the future or the cycle of the past. (people dont change enough to try to make it work when it isn't)
Plus, say you do meet a really great guy, he's not going to be happy that your ex still calls you and tells you he still wants to be with you (speaking from experience) that will only cause trouble in your new relationships.
You dont have to write him off forever, just until you are settled and ok without him, and him without you. Then once the attachment is gone, a friendship can evolve.
2006-12-18 04:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by nightstar114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to still care a lot about him, the best thing for you to do would be to quit talking to him and to forget him. You won't be able to get into another relationship if you can't move on. It probably is hard but it also sounds like the guy is a jerk, don't take him back either.
Good luck to you
2006-12-18 04:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there leave out ............. As u mentioned he is making an attempt to get in touch with u after the sort of long time, even when he has a woman in his lifestyles, it shows he has realised that your break up was once a tremendous mistake. And as u said u still love him and if rationale of your destroy up was once too serious and if u can still get a bright future with him than i believe both of u must at least meet once and have a chat over it. May be u'll get ur love without end. Or if its no longer possible to be collectively than i will propose u to inform him to go away u by myself and under no circumstances try to contact u, bcoz if he'll achieve this it'll harm u. First-class of luck.
2016-08-10 02:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by jensen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trying to forget him, then being friends with him is not a good idea. You can't forget someone if you still have a continuing relationship with them. You know as friends, he will be sharing with you about all the women he's playing. It's not a good idea. Go you separate ways, if he calls to say hi, talk then move on.
2006-12-18 04:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok personal experience....i was in a relationship with a guy for the same amount of time, he also was interested in being a player rather than a faithful boyfriend....i eventually ended it, yeah we talked for like a month after the split but i found it easier to get over him to not talk to him, call him, or anything!!! it took me awhile to get over him but now im in a wonderful realationship that i woudlnt have found if i didnt let him go. My advice cut off all ties with him! guys like that just like to keep you around for someone they can go to becaue they feel comfortable with you when they dont have another girl around. find yourself a new man with better morals and then you will be truely happy:)
2006-12-18 04:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the case of moving on, GET RID OF HIM. He is only playing with your head as he did for the past 4-1/2yrs.
He is your ex for a reason. Most time being friends with your ex does not work and any new guy in your life will have a prob and always have issues with it.
move on totally!! I did!!
2006-12-18 04:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-03 13:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid. He is stringing you along. You're about the only one that is still listening to his bull----. He likes the attention and you're giving it to him. He won't just be a friend. He'll use your body and then he is back to his same routine.
2006-12-18 04:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋