This has become expensive for couples, parents and anyone involved in the entire reception. We are talking about as many as 50 people. I have first hand experience, and have been to other weddings that have had the same problem. Can anything be done? I am a musician/photographer, and have seen the dissapointment and waste of food and money when people do not show up or even call to say they are not coming. Should a notice be added to the invitation about this?
2006-12-18 04:43:51 · 12 answers · asked by Dede7007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've never heard of such a thing. I think they should re-think who they're inviting and keep it to close family and friends. These couples must be inviting random people they're not close to.
2006-12-18 04:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, so rude. I think that even the best prepared couple will experience this to some extent. You can send all the "Save the Date" and response cards that you want, but there will always be some jerk who either doesn't bother to send it back, or does send it and still doesnt show. I think a lot of people choose weddings to sever any and all ties with the bridal couple and/or their families. They say they are coming and don't show, knowing this will probably be seen as unforgivable to the couple. It's a complete cop-out and totally rude, but some people are just raised by wolves and haven't a clue about what class is. Fifty no-shows seems a little excessive though!
2006-12-18 18:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Just like nothing can be done about the significant people who come and did not send an RSVP. I spent the 2 weeks before my wedding calling everyone who didn't RSVP to get an answer. They dont return phone calls and then just show. Or say they will and dont show at all. The hope is that those 2 numbers come close to balancing each other out. But etiquette isn't what it used to be. It's not their money so they don't care.
2006-12-18 15:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I think that a notice should be given to those who send out a "save the date" notice before the actual invitation that states something to the effect that if they do not plan on coming to the wedding they should call now.. that way the Bride and groom can choose wether or not to even spend the extra money on the invitations and can properly plan for the meal. Granted they should always plan on more food for those attending just in case someone does decide to show, because you can add names to the guest list up to the day before.
2006-12-18 12:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by jillifly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter who you invite, you will always have last minute no shows - regardless of RSVP's....I just got married last August, and we only invited immediate family (about 95 people)...there were probably 8 people that RSVP'd that never came (including a Uncle who lives in the city of the wedding!) You never can tell...but I'd say for every 15 you invite, expect one not to show. You never know (this will really only work for a buffett though, not sit-down)...and, we paid $35 a plate...(that's alot of wasted money)
2006-12-18 17:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by brassmunkie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RSVP cards are put in with invitations to prevent such a thing from happening...a significant number of no-shows can cost a fortune in wasted food, time, and space. Usually if people have RSVPed, though, they do attend...the most I have seen not show, after RSVPing is 10, but that was due to an unforseen circumstance in travel...
2006-12-19 10:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes somtehing can be done. People should invite to their wedding only the people that they really care about and that they know that they can attend instead of having a bloated guest list.
Also, there is such thing called RSVP....
Good luck
2006-12-18 12:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
To prevent this next year when we get married, we are putting RSVP on out inventations, and if someone doesn't respond back, they get crossed off the list and someone else added in there place.
2006-12-18 13:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jason 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that people who have RSVPed are not showing up? I guess wedding planners should tell folks that they should assume at least an XX% no show from those who have answered.
2006-12-18 13:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they don't answer...don't include them in your count. if they show up be politely/rude by saying i wish i'd known you were coming.
2006-12-18 16:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋