For the past 10 years our entire family get together on Christmas Eve to celebrate, we usually rent a hall since our family consists of about 50 people,and no one has a big enough house for this many people......This year we could not get a hall my sister has offered her house for the get together even though her house is way to small and far away ,so I decided to stay at home with my imediate family.....husband, kids, parents.....Everyone now is blaming me for ruining Christmas Eve.
2006-12-18 04:41:02 · 24 answers · asked by T 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have a great time. If you allow them to ruin YOUR Christmas Eve with their grumblings, then you really did ruin Christmas.....for yourself.
2006-12-18 04:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by AlaskaGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah well, honey I understand. My family usually goes to my moms Christmas eve through day and this year my husband wanted Christmas at home and so we worked out a comprimise and said we would spend part of the evening with them at the house and then go home.... Mom's not happy and really it's not about them, its all about the kids and if they have a grand Christmas then more power to you. That's how we are getting through it and frankly all you can do is invite them to come over and spend some time with you and your family and if they don't accept then say have a Merry Christmas and do what you planned on doing anyway. You aren't ruining Christmas, you are starting something differant and it is in our nature to resist change.
2006-12-18 05:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by jillifly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you "ruin" Christmas eve?? Haven't you ever heard of "leaving and cleaving"? Its in the bible and was probably in your vows if you were married by a clergyman/woman. Let your family know how much you love them and will miis them but explain this will be a very special Christmas devoted for the first time to your immediate family. Thank them for giving you that opportunity, and volunteer to help locate a hall for next year. Oh yeah, and promise to call them at a specific time so they can put you on speakerphone to wish them all the best.
2006-12-18 04:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by candy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Far from being a season for blaming and being remorseful, Christmas is a time for understanding, love and compassion. If your extended family cannot see this, well, than that is their problem! Besides ,your immediate family is the one who deserves the most consideration. Feel content with your decision and don't ruin your Christmas because someone else can't cope with your will.
Merry Christmas and peace on earth to men of good wil!
2006-12-18 04:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband and children come first and dont let family put pressure on you. You do as you think best and make your christmas special. Besides its is not fair to always have christmas with one side of the family. Your sisters and brothers or whoever is going to be together must not interfere in your life. Let your yes be your yes and your no be your no. You are a grown woman now and have a new life. Now live it and I hope you have a wonderful christmas this year.
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU ALL
2006-12-18 04:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's really so far and just for one day, it really makes no sense. I mean if it's even a 4 hour trip each way, that's 8 hours of driving in a day, which, to me, would truly ruin Christmas Eve. There's two possible solutions to the blame being cast...either you choose to go, or you choose to call them. Physical presence isn't necessary for Christmas as long as the heart is there.
2006-12-18 04:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by Gray 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, for heavens' sakes. How can YOU ruin THEIR christmas because you feel it more comfortable to remain home with your immediate family than haul off somewhere across country for just a few days? When people get that locked into this kind of "ritual" to the point it becomes almost an obscession, it's time to get off the darn treadmill. It truly irritates me to hear about instances of family members trying to dominate other family members - especially when they even try to lay a guilt trip on you. Don't play their silly game. Do what YOU want to do and what is best for YOU.
2006-12-18 04:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea I would highly suggest you go. You have to understand you are putting a wrinkle in a 10 year old tradition. Most people probably view you as stand off ish. She has suggested to have this get together at her house because it probably would mean alot to her to be able to host this event. Think about it at her perspective. Even though it may not be under ideal conditions if I were you I would just suck it up and go and enjoy being around family during the holidays. Good luck and have a Merry Christmas.
2006-12-18 04:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is your decision, your family should support you when you make a decision even when they think it is the wrong decision.
You made the decision that is right for you and your family, and it may not be a decision that would be right for them.
I kind of have the same problem, so try something that we do every Christmas. We all setup our computers in the family room where the tree is, and we hook up webcams. Then we broadcast the webcam of Christmas to all different people in the family. It works out good.
2006-12-18 04:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we grow older you start new traditions with your family. You need to do what is best for your family. We have so much family that we stay home and do a family reunion in the summer. Do what makes your family and you happy they are the ones you have to live with. You didn't ruin anything just starting something new with your immediate family. The family should understand that's what we do.
2006-12-18 04:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas eve is about family. EVERYONE should be together including your side of the family. Although, if this causes too much stress you should just explain to them what is going on and let them decide for themselves, eventually everything will fix itself.
2006-12-18 04:44:39 · answer #11 · answered by jdawgboothe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋