theres a girl in my school who i am realy good friends with and i have recently been having feeling for. but i dont want to risk our friendship so i decided not to ask her out. but i cant stop thinking about her. anybody got any good ideas on how to get over her plz?
2006-12-18 04:39:46 · 27 answers · asked by mr happy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Certainly you cannot stop thinking of someone you're dwelling on...just stop thinking of a white horse! Ok, are you not picturing a white horse now? Well stop! You can't because you keep focusing on it. You need to find a distraction (maybe the Christmas break will help) to stop your obsessive thoughts of this girl.
2006-12-18 04:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think if you're having feelings for this girl, it is always going to be hard to get over her until you have established for sure that she doesn't have the same feelings for you. You can always get over her more easily and get back into the swing of things when you know for sure that she doesn't regard you as any more than a "good friend". But if you stick to your guns and don't at least ask her how she feels about you, the "what if" question is always going to be nagging at you.
So I would advise you to bite the bullet, ask her out, tell her how you feel about her and ask her how she feels about you before you make the final decision to move onto someone else. Relationships are all about communication. You never know, she might be in the same quandary about you as you are about her. A faint heart never won a fair maid.
Good luck!
2006-12-18 13:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by colliedug111060 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My buddy did the same thing with a girl he really liked in high school. They were very good friends and he did not want to risk losing a friendship. 10 years down the road, he still regrets not asking her out.
Ask her out. This will sound bad but the friendship you will loose is nothing compared to the fun and hapiness you may gain. Good luck!
2006-12-18 12:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, I agree with most of the answers, except the knob ones.
Just to offer something different.
Write her letters that you never plan to give her. It will be kind of fun and romantic, then destroy theUnles of course, you decide to give her one and she how she replies.
If you decide to chat with ehr about your feelings. Follow this step process.
1. Affirm the friendship.
2. Discuss your feelings.
3. Discuss her feelings.
4. Where the relationship is going. Have an agreed relationship.
4. Reconfirm the friendship, even if you become bf/gf.
True friends experience things like this and get through them. If you get together then break up, it might not be asy to get back together as friends. Discuss this as well.
2006-12-18 13:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait; time is the only thing that'll help. It might seem like you'll never stop thinking about her, but as the days go on you will begin to think of her less and less. If you've come to the conclusion it won't work out with your friend, definately don't push it. She might be able to hook you up with the cute girl you sit beside in chemistry or something.
2006-12-18 12:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by js 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you are not going to get over her that easily, i wish i could give you a better answer.
Why don't you just bite the bullet and ask her out, i know you don't want to spoil your friendship but can you really keep seeing her and have these feelings build up even more??
Even if she was to say no, I'm sure you both would be adult enough to stay friends afterwards. Go for it!!
Good luck xxx
2006-12-18 13:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has bad points if you look hard enough. Just concentrate on some little things that annoy you so she becomes smaller in your head. but pick something small cos as you said you don't wanna ruin your friendship either.
2006-12-18 12:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Queen of the Stone Age 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is just infatuation then u really dont have to worry it will go off in some days when u will find someone better.
If its not then its love & how can u afford to hide true love, u can't, even if u want to.
My suggestion is , Go for it, be a man.
2006-12-18 12:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by luckykom83 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ever heard of the saying "If you're not willing to risk it all, then you don't want it bad enough"? I'm not saying you should bluntly tell her you're interested. Just show her that she's important to you and you value her friendship. Maybe in time it could grow into something more, if you want it to.
2006-12-18 12:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by mathsmart2_aelita 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you've truly decided not to reveal your feelings to this person, move on. If you want to continue your friendship with her that's fine, but start considering other girls for romance.
2006-12-18 12:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋