Should I fight with my mom over this or should I obey?

Question

I'm 13, mom makes me wear bras I don't like. She's very caring and somewhat overprotctive, so she makes me wear bras with much support, thick material and 4 hooks in the back. It's out of love, she's a great mom, we have a wonderful relationship, but those bras make me sweat, I don't like the. I did everything I could t talk her out of them, nut she didnt chanhe her mind. she always says Hun, it's for your best, I love you..If I don't fighty, or disobey or do something I usually don't then I'm stuck to those bras until I'm 18. And if I fight or disobey I don't know what will happen, she may punish me, though she's a very nice and understanding mom and the last time I got grounded was 2 years ago. I don't know if it's her right to punish me if I disobey, but anyway she'll get hurt and I don't want this. My dad passed away and this is another reason to avoid fights. I talked to other moms and all of them told me to be patient and wear those bras, it's not worth fighting over this

Answer 1

Your mom is absolutley correct that you will need the support and I agree with her 100% but you really need to talk to her about this. There are many style bras out now that are just as supportive and fit properly without being entirely uncomfortable, alhtough at 34 I still cant stand them! Maybe you two can spend an afternoon finding a brand and style you will BOTH be happy with. I am mom to a wonderful 12 year old young lady and we have just gone through this same mess. It's no picnic but somethign we have to deal with

Answer 2

I have a 14 year old daughter and as a mom, I don't want my daughter wearing very sexy bras at her age. I am also pretty busty, so I can certainly understand that you don't want to wear a big supportive (old lady) bra, they are uncomfortable. Just talk to you mom about it. Maybe you two can look for some bras together that are modest, but still pretty and not too uncomfortable. I will say that if you disobey, your mom does have the right to punish you. You are her minor child and she does have your best interest in mind. If you can't get her to change her mind then you really don't have any alternative but to be patient and wait until you are 18. Five years is really not that long. Good luck, I hope you can find a bra that you can both agree on.

Answer 3

Being a guy I wouldn't have the foggiest idea of what a bra must feel like BUT...

You should really sit down with your mom. No outside distractions. No TV on... no Radio. Plan a meeting with her and speak to her about it. Tell her your reasons why you woul prefer to use a different brand or style. Suggest even going with her to purchase them. Ask her why she is resistant to chanig your current style. It may be for medical or proper support reasons.

I think its all in the delivery. You are a teenager and sometimes what you 'say' isnt what they 'hear'. Make sure you are on the same page in a controlled environment. I think if you jsut take the time to plan a meeting with her she will notice that this is very important and not just "typical teenage angst".

Give her a chance to understand your discomfort and I am sure that she will realize and agree that a different style is needed.

It's all in your delivery!!!! Remember that!
Screaming and hollering or moaning and graoning are typically drowned out by parents.

Just give planning and calmness a shot! What do you ahve to lose? ;)

Good Luck on the new bra quest!

Answer 4

You sound like a really good daughter, I would see if you can go shopping with your mom for bras and pick something you can both agree on, if you need the support a bra like you described provides you may not find what you want but at least you can see whats out there and work together. Keep talking to your mom she is and will listen. Really she does want whats best for you.

Answer 5

Hun, if you don't want to wear the bra, then don't. But if your afraid things between your mom may become shaky then you need to sit down and have a nice mature talk with her about the bras you wear. It isn't like you go around showing guys your bras. If it comes to it, point out that she does not know how you feel in these bras and maybe she should let you pick one out , that you and her both approve of.

Answer 6

Tell her that you understand that she wants you to wear an bra with support but that you would like to wear one with style and not so hot. So ask her to go bra shopping with you so you can both agree on one. (You really should wear one for support because if you don't, you will regret it later in life, I know from experience). If you both shopping, then thats an extra alone time for the two of you to bond and have a good experience too. It is nice to hear you say that you respect your mother and don't want to hurt her feelings. You are a very considerate daughter. So wear a bra. Good Luck!

Answer 7

I can understand your mom's perspective, she's just looking out for you and doing what she thinks is best. But maybe you can compromise and ask your mom if you could have maybe one or two bras of your choice and wear them on the weekends. Otherwise, yes, I agree that this is not something worth fighting over too much.

Answer 8

The other moms are right - this is no reason to disobey or fight with your mom. Being that your 13 you should still be doing what your told and what is expected of you. Keep your chin up one day you will have a child of your own and completely understand.

Answer 9

I do think you should obey your mother and maybe when the timing is right, you should talk about other types of bra you do enjoy wearing. Try compromising and give her maybe several types of bras that both of you can agree on. If she just won't budge, then I say, wear them good-for-you bras and make the best of them. Good luck!

Answer 10

they are right this is nothing to be fighting over... If they make you sweat try putting some powder under neither the bottom of the bra's....... but save the fighting for a real good situation not over clothes hun....