Okay here is the story: Last week me and my boyfriend broke up. Well he gave me reasons why. But the thing is he says that he won't get back with because I messed up. He told me that I pushed him away by ignoring him and putting him on hold for a long time. And I admittted to him that I didn't seem to care at first but when he started changing thats when I changed. I stopped putting him on hold I stopped ignoring him and I also would tell him that I couldn't talk because I had to study. Well now he tells me to move on right. Well I can't. I asked him why he didn't give me an answer. But yet he still calls me baby and babe and he says he still loves me and that yes he wants to be with me. But yet he isn't with me. What do I do? He called me and I wanted to talk about it but he didn't and I asked why and he told me because it had happened and that we aren't getting back together either way. but he still tells me he loves me and that he misses me. I can't even stop crying. Help!! Please!!
2006-12-18 04:36:47 · 9 answers · asked by ¤мαяînзz Gîяℓ¤ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he's still in love with you. Love isn't like a light switch, you can't just turn it on and off. That's why he still calls you baby and babe and he says he still loves you and that yes he wants to be with you. The only problem is he feels as though you ignored him and when the two of you were together he didn't know where he stood, or he felt like he was playing second fiddle, so he feels hurt and that's why he doesn't want to talk about it.
Because he broke up with you the ball is in his court in terms of whether or you get back together. But to be honest with you I think he truly does miss you and he loves you but can't deal with getting hurt the same way and having it happen all over again. That's why he's saying that the two of you aren't getting back together and you should move on.
I don't want to tell you that it's not going to happen because "guys have a funny way of coming around", but at the same time I was a bad boyfriend once and my girlfriend broke up with me. I knew she still loved me, (she even continued to wear the ring I bought her), but I had gone to far and she just couldn't bring herself to get back together with me. I think that's what has happened here.
Just be friends with him and see what happens but either way I'm sure things work out. If not with him with someone else.
2006-12-18 05:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Him That You Love Him... And You Miss Him, be with him the same way he is with you... just keep acting like you guys are bf/gf, so everything would keep going natural... anyway, as a personal advice, don't go that close to him ''till things are back straight again... if it doesn't go straight, HURT him and tell him about the way you're feeling and about your confusness, and tell him if he really loves you, u love him too and you guys must be bf/gf... if not, it's not good for both of you, you both'd get sad, or, you'd just won't give a sh*t... GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-18 12:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry for your sadness, I've been there it hurt's right..
one thing I know games don't work but we all have played them
at one time or another,I think he think's he loves you but sweetie
that is not love, love is patient kind honest and hold's no grudges.
I think you should have a serious talk with your self and find a
nice guy who does'nt have the qualities of the one who keeps
you in pain.He is a good actor,please heal and use caution in
meeting someone new.
2006-12-18 12:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by JENNY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him you need to talk with him. And tell him straight up what you are feeling.
But if he is going to continue and be a jerk to you saying there is no chance of getting back together, let him go. It's obvious he does not value the relationship the same way you do.
And that isn't fair to either of you.
Good luck.
2006-12-18 12:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he felt ignored so now he's just playing the game with you. Either way, it remains a foolish game. In your shoes, I would probably tell him that if he's not interested in me to leave me alone. If he really did love you he would understand that studying for school is MUCH MORE IMPORTANT than any man. He sounds like he has issues. Don't make them yours. Good Luck.
2006-12-18 12:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be the case that you and him simply need to sit down together and talk truthfully to one another. Even though he says that he won't get together with you, it will help if you just talk through you differences. if he still loves you, like he says he does, then he will be willing to give your relationship another try.
2006-12-18 12:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by woodylbroome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl you need to tell him straight up and real do you want me or not.If not then hang up the phone if you do then tell me because you are breaking my heart and banging my head up with lies.
2006-12-18 12:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by SexyRed16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like your guy is taking you on a emotional roller coaster to get back at you, he wants you to feel what he felt with you .
Please remember Love doesn't hurt. Move on take his advice, you deserve better than this.
2006-12-18 12:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by Priscilla B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he has mood swings! lol. well i would tell him that if u love me why dont u get back together with me! and if he says he wont again i would say well i guess u dont love me then!
2006-12-18 12:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jordan Alise :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋