Ive known my girlfriend for bout a year now and i was crazy about her from the moment i saw her. She liked me to but she was going out with somebody at the time. She eventually broke up with him and went with me. She broke up with him bout 2 months ago and since then she hasnt heard a word from him.......until this weekend when he called her. She was kinda unsettled by it. They were talking on the phone for 4hrs and she told him that she wasnt gonna take him back. But she never told him that she was going out with me though coz she figured it'd be too much for him to take. She wont get back with him so im not worried about that but he asked her could he call her agian and she said ok. Im not happy about that but i figured one phone call in a few months wont hurt so i didnt try tell her what to do. But today he sent her a txt and asked to meet up. She said no but now i think hes gonna keep contacting her. What should i do? Should i start demanding she cut off all contact with him?
2006-12-18 04:34:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should i play it cool and leave it up to her? I mean in fairness shes been upfront with me about everything. I trust her completely but at the same time im not at all happy about my girls ex talking to her
2006-12-18 04:36:09 · update #1
Be honest with her about how you feel. Tell her that you are ok with an occassional call but the texting and 4 hour long conversations are a bit much. I don't think you should hold those feelings in because at some point they will build up and have to come out and you don't want it to turn into a fight. Your feelings about this should be important to her so tell her honestly and I think all will work out fine.
2006-12-18 04:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she loves you then she won't cheat on you. Matt was in the same place with me. He liked me from the first time he saw me and i was dating someone. Then we started talking as Friends and i started having feelings for him and then my ex made me mad so i left him. I didn't approve of what my ex did and i told him to choose between that and me and he said he couldn't. So i told him that i needed time to be apart to let him think what he wanted in life. Matt knows what he wants in life and so do i. A Family. See, you can't always take someone's advice b/c sometimes some people aren't right but when i give someone advice it comes from the heart and from situations that i have already been in. Give it time to click in her head and then talk to her. Tell her that you really don't like the idea but if there is no strings attached between them then that makes you feel better.
2006-12-18 12:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lil' Miss Thing aka Crista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife had a "just a friend" while we were dating. I don't know how old YOU are, but we were all about 20. Let me tell you something, 20 year old guys do not "just want to be friends". There is an alterior motive....he wants back down her pants.
I told my wife, then girlfriend, that I wasn't happy about our situation and she told me I was just going to have to learn to live with it because he was a close friend. This "close friend" promised me that he wouldn't screw with our relationship. When he realized that he wasn't going to get her from me, he actually told a friend of his to ask MY girlfriend out and said she was into him this guy. He was hoping it wouldn't work out and he would be next in line.
In our case, I got lucky and the truth came out when it did. They haven't spoken since....some friend huh? Here's an idea for you: Let her read your question and these answers and she'll see how sincerely concerned you are.
2006-12-18 14:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by J. B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start making demands you are going to push her his way or out of your life. She at least needs to tell him about you because that might keep him from contacting her further. Even if she doesn't want him to know it's you she should inform him she is seeing someone. It's best if she doesn't reply in the future.
2006-12-18 12:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you then you indeed shouild let her know that although you trust her 100% it is unsettling that he has now started up conversations with him in an effort to get back into her life
2006-12-18 12:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT tell her to stop talking to him. She'll get mad and do it anyways to spite you. Let her know you trust her, she dumped him for you... don't forget that. Unless you know for a fact that she cheats, don't get upset about it. If he keeps calling ask her to ask him to stop.
2006-12-18 12:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would just play it cool i know it annoys you but you can't choose her friends just like she can't choose yours. if it annoys you that much then you could try talking to her.
2006-12-18 12:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋