I have been wanting to change my last name for a long time. mainly because I really hate my Father. But my parents severely object to it even though I'm almost 19 and moving out in two weeks. They have said that they will take me out of the will if I do this. However, I'm not really sure my Father even has a will and that it's possibly just a way of intimidating me. Should I do it anyway?
2006-12-18 04:34:22 · 16 answers · asked by Chloe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ask to see the will
2006-12-18 04:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why go through the expense, when your name will change when you marry anyway? It's not going to change how you feel about your Father, or anything that happened. But, if it's what you really want, then don't let some threat stop you. Enjoy adulthood and do what you want!
2006-12-18 04:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being of age, you really should make your own decisions and not base it on a will (if there is one). If you think it's for the best to change your last name then do so but remember, if you want to keep the peace, all you have to do is wait until marriage and then they can't really blame you for taking your hubby's name and everyone is happy!
2006-12-18 05:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said you want to change your name because you hate your father, so yes it would be considered hateful to change your last name against your parents wishes. If you are changing your last name and you are not getting married, then you are basically disowning your family. If you want to do it, then that's your business, but if you do then you should expect your father to disown you too.
2006-12-18 04:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetheart if you really hate your father that much, then who cares if he's leaving you anything. If you don't want his name then you should not want his material accummulations.
Changing your name does not change your parentage or who you really are so what's the sense.
Anyway being a woman you will change your name when you get married, you lived with it for 19 years why not tolerate it a few more. That way your parents won't be upset.
2006-12-18 04:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by stacy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When you get married, you may want to change your name. Why do it twice. A rose by any other name smells as sweet. You are defined by who you are, not by your name.
If you want to change your name, then it is your prerogative, but I don't think that addresses the real issue. Since your birth name is on all your school transcripts, and birth certificate, changing your name could create more problems than it cures.
2006-12-18 04:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's you decision. You are an adult and your parents have to understand that. It is their turn to do some maturing. They simply forgot the type of daughter they raised and I mean that in a good way. Here your parents have gone and raised you to be independent and when the time comes and you are independent, well they are panicking,
"What did we raise?"
2006-12-18 04:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over 18 and can change your name if you wish. It is a personal choice and should not be considered hatred, unless it is hatred that is driving your choice. It is YOUR decision to make!
2006-12-18 04:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW...
That seems to be a heart felt desicion. I understand how you'd feel, and I'm sure there are ton's of reason's why you'd want to do it.
Nevertheless.. I'm a parent, and I'm sure they said those things with hurt feelings.
Do some serious SOUL searching, and give it time. Before you jump into it...
2006-12-18 04:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by Lo Lo G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 04:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by tonini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go head because your father is just trying to bribe you.But hey you don't need him.If I was you I would go for it cause that's what I'm doing at the age of 18.
2006-12-18 04:38:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋