One I've been dating for more than 2 years. Beautiful, smart, outgoing, and a freak in the sheets. My only concern with her is that she can be really negative sometimes and very possessive. Shes' been married twice already.
The other is a unhappily married woman who has been flirting with me for 2 years at the gym. She is absolutely gorgeous with a perfect body but married to a alcoholic/drug abuser. I finally approached her and she confirmed she's had the hots for me. as well. We email and talk on the phone and see each other when we can. We have just agreed not to have sex but keep it to a friendship until we are sure. I believe she would leave him tomorrow if I asked her too and she makes my heart leap when I see her. She is just so damn sweet and could have ANY guy she wants. My only concern is whether she is TOO submissive and shy but then I think she has been repressed by her husband and would go crazy once I got her to drop her inhibitions.
How do I choose?
2006-12-18 04:34:05 · 11 answers · asked by hardbodied_romantic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to decide who you want to be with more first.
Make a pro/con list.
Don't just leave your girlfreind because you met a "hottie" who could possibly be good in bed.
But don't not break up with your girl out of pity.
Decide who is better for you. If you are in a bad relationship, get out. If it is just the prospect of a little lustful adventure, then it's prob not worth it.
You have to decide.
2006-12-18 04:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've experienced the possessive type and it's not a good relationship because it's one sided. It's all about them and controlling you. I'd shy away from that one if I wasn't already in too deep and in love or something.
The other one would be my pick. I have a little problem with her playing around being married though. If her marriage is bad, she needs to get out of it, and not lower herself. But, there is a chance that she has no place to go because of money or something. I would lean toward her of the two. Just don't get caught up in her leaving her husband. Could be dangerous.
Good Luck.
2006-12-18 04:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres so many issues here besides the choosing.
Obviously you are not in love with this girl you've been dating for two years if rather than guilt for your feelings for the woman at the gym, you're feeling concerns about CHOOSING. So you should look at WHY you are not satisfied in your current relationship and why you want to choose someone else, if you aren't happy in your current relationship, leave that, regardless of gym-lady, you're already emotionally-cheating on her anyway. If you figure out whats wrong with your current and want to work on it, than cut all contact with gym lady, stop making excuses and tell her straight up you're in a relationship and working on that is your priority right now and you can't speak with her. You can't have best of both worlds, stringing both along until YOU pick. Thats messed up. Now, in regards to the gym lady, you both should not do anything until you are both officially single (meaning the people you are currently with KNOW they are broken up, insinuating and/or planning does not equate to broken up). And whether you think she's dating material is entirely up to you, you're obviously attracted to her, and thats a first step.
3 pieces of advise: Don't be greedy. Don't be cruel. And have patience.
2006-12-18 04:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I envy the choice you have to make... LOL
It's a hard choice and you're not really going to be choosing only the woman. You're also going to be choosing the situation you want to deal with. Would you feel bad breaking up a family for this married woman? Could you see yourself being happy with the girl you have now? These are things you are going to have to weigh out.
2006-12-18 04:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would break it off with the first girl...who wants someone who is negative and possessive? the second girl...don't ever ask anyone to leave a relationship for your own reasons. b/c of her situation..she needs to leave on her own, not some guy asking her leave b/c he wants her. but from past experience, yes after she is away from him she could open up a lot more, but it will take some time. so if you are patient its all good, just continue to be her friend until she leaves and be her support for after she leaves. once she gets passed the marriage then you two can move on
2006-12-18 04:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don;t be naive. You already know you can never trust the married woman if you end up selecting her. If she is that unhappy in her marriage, why does she not make a clean break before starting with you? instead of trying to have the best of both worlds ...
2006-12-18 04:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by zymzyv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself if you are happy with current gf and see it long term or if it's time to move on, if you answer no then chose gym girl
2006-12-18 04:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion i wouldnt look at beauty in this matter i would see what one really matters what one you could see your self with what one has the best personality and maybe think of pros and cons . . . thats my opinion i help it helps you . . .
2006-12-18 04:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by juggalette~dopey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would choose the hot gym girl cuz she sounds like she would appreciate u...and she's hot
2006-12-18 04:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jay-C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 words
Rock
Paper
Scissors
2006-12-18 04:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by elementalguy2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋