A few months ago, a friend pointed out to me that I am a flirt. While discussing it with my cousins, my MALE cousin said "Yea, your an equal oppurtunity flirt, you flirt with eeeveryone." my FEMALE cousin said "No, I think you are just being nice."
So, what, in our opinion, is the difference? Does flirting involve more touching? More smiling? or is the line too thin to define?
2006-12-18 04:28:50 · 27 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm NOT flirting with my cousin. I was just asking his opinion and he said while observing me with other people, I flirted with everyone.
2006-12-18 04:34:44 · update #1
people tell me the same thing, and alot of the time, guys mistake my nice-ness for flirting and it gets me in trouble. i know what u mean, the line is really fine. you dont want to be too nice, but u dont wanna seem cold either. i wish could give more advice but im in the same boat
2006-12-18 04:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by theburlaces 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It is definitely a thin line. I got accused of it once when I was in a church program. I did it in front of my mentor lady. I knew flirting was against the rules, so I would never have done it intentionally in front of her right?? I think flirting is based on the other person's perceptions. Our motives can be totally pure, but can be seen as not. I don't get it.
What about the guy's side? If they are polite and a gentleman, women see it as flirting. It's sad I think. I was with a friend and his parents when his dad just simply stepped to the side and let a lady pass in a small path and she said she wanted to deck him. Politeness is often mistaken, on both sides I think, for flirting.
I would suggest that you just make sure your heart motives are right and let everyone else just deal with it. If someone confronts you with a specific behavior, take a look at it.
2006-12-18 04:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to realize is that men and woman are different. Women are somewhat accustomed to getting attention from men, but most men don't get attention in return.
Men may see you as a flirt because you give them a great deal of friendly attention. Most women aren't friendly with men. Even if they're "interested" women may not give off a signal at first. When you are "just being your nice self" it's obviously being seen by the males around you as some sort of flirtatious signal. Most women are very reserved and cautious about how they treat and act around men for this very reason.
The upside to all of this is that you are probably making some poor slobs day and you don't even know it.
-BD
2006-12-18 04:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by Perfectly Said 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its too thin to define... everyone holds a different level on being nice or being a flirt, it really depends who you are... its very hard not to offend some people, because some find giggling to be flirting... Some people who are more quiet find people who are "people persons" to be flirts, when really, they are just really great with people of all ages/personalities... I think flirting involves the touching, the giggling, the sly smiles, the whispering etc... But it really is hard to establish sometimes...
2006-12-18 04:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by lily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too thin a line to define. What one person considers being friendly is another's idea of flirting. Just be careful. If you are not flirting and someone is getting the wrong signals, be certain to set them straight a/s/a/p.
2006-12-18 04:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nice is being polite, not overly talkative, and acting in a kind/friendly way. Flirting is showing interest in someone over everyone else in a group, laughing at whatever they say that is even remotely funny, trying to make them laugh/smile, etc. Being nice and flirting ARE closely related but there is a difference.
2006-12-18 04:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
some people flirt and don't even know they are doing it. Maybe you are just a nice person but members of the male persuasion se it as flirting. could be in your voice, your smile, your eyes, maybe you like to hug a lot or kiss on the cheek as friends.
Could be wishful thinking on their part. You are very attractive. I don't know for sure, but something is putting you over the top.
2006-12-18 04:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its on the line of too thin to define. I think your female cousin was just being nice.
2006-12-18 04:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by alexmojo2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think flirting is giving out more info than you need to +more smiling, giggling and touching. (I does depend on who your talking to) Being nice is just saying hi, smiling and maybee asking a innocent question like how was your weekend, or not giving ALL the details when asked that question.
2006-12-18 04:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by d1234 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The desperate guys will see you being nice as flirting. If the guy can't tell the difference, then he's lived in a closet during his formitive years.
2006-12-18 04:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it all depends on your intentions! If you like the person, and you are trying to show it, then that's flirting.
Being nice is when you really have no interest in that person past the point of friendliness.
2006-12-18 04:31:08 · answer #11 · answered by wvucountryroads 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋