My Husband has been In IRAQ since April 2 of this year, and he got home about two weeks ago a TOTALLY different person!!! I'll admit, things on my end were different too, I had a first baby In July and I started my internship at a teaching hospital, but he's just so............strange. I the middle of the night, If I go to kiss him while he's sleeping, He jumps and starts freaking out. He won't even play with our daughter and says that he doesn't want to be alont with her. He seems REALLY withdrawn and distant from me, He's so quiet. His best friend (Who's my big brother) came over to take him out the other day, and my bro told me that he just set in the corner all night. He won't talk to me..........about anything, and all I want to do is help. I want to throught my arms around him and tell him that everythings gonna be OK...... but I just can't do it. I miss the man I married, He won't tell me anything, He leaves back out on Jan 4 and I want to know if anybody else has been through
2006-12-18 04:25:07 · 7 answers · asked by ariel 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
this? If you have, then what can i do to help?? And will I ever get the man I married back?? BTW I'm 19, he's 21 if that helps any......
2006-12-18 04:26:25 · update #1
I just wanted to tell you how sorry i am. my husband is "over there" right now and this is one of the things that he is scared of.. well we both are. i would go to counseling and whatever you do don't let this ruin your marriage. I'm 18 and my husbands 20 and our first child will be here in June. i know it will take a lot of adjusting getting back to the life you had. good luck with everything and god bless.
2006-12-18 11:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by EMW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is developing post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I've known a few cops who have it. Talk to him about it and just listen...don't judge or tell him you understand. Seek out information on what kind of help is available for him, most likely at the base hospital. If all else fails, and he is really having a hard time, talk to his commander or first sergeant and let them know what's going on. They can get him help better than you can. He will be pissed off at you, but it's what's best for him.
2006-12-18 23:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by dogguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has had to be alert and see things and do things that most people don't. Plus you have been living a life with out him and he is coming home to some thing different and he might not see where he fits in. He is going to need counseling when he gets back for sure.
2006-12-18 23:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard...its a whole new world for him. He is in a combat zone and trying to do what he has to in order to stay alive. Please just be very very patient with him. Once he is home he will re adjust, but it wont be easy. It will take alot of patience and love from you. My husband just returned in June from Iraq. I know how you feel. It is very hard. If you ever need to talk, you can IM me. I will gladly talk to you. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-19 17:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal. he;s been ina combat zone, and it'shard to turn the emotions back on for a mere two weeks when he KNOWS he will have to turn them backoff again in order to survive the rest of the deployment. All you can do is let him know that you are going to be there for him and whn he gets back for good, encourage him to seekout PTSD help.
2006-12-18 14:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope he is a new guy now. You have to mix the memory of the old guy and the reality of the new guy.
2006-12-18 14:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he has PTSD. Have him seek counseling asap.
2006-12-18 16:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋