Im in a relashionship ive been in for the past 5 years. I love the man with all my heart, so i think. Im now 4 months pregnant with his child. And things just feel odd. I dont feel as in love with him as i once was and i feel like im craving another mans attention, just to sit and hold me or whatever. I miss that feeling. What do i do. My mans not a bad person by any means he just isnt real attentive to anything and i feel like im being torn between everything. Im constantly doing all the housework, kids things (he has two sons and i have two sons), im running all over and i never get a break, he never says thank you. Never asks if i need help nothing and its wearing me out. Like i said im pregnant and im not sure what to do here, do i stay or should i go or what. Please help me out if you can. I would never ever cheat on him, its either all or nothing. i guess i just feel lonely. and if i go who would want a pregnant chick with 2 kids would i be alone.
2006-12-18 04:22:30 · 6 answers · asked by jess_n_flip 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello Dear...:)
Well, men tend to get into a "rut" of feeling secure and comfortable in a relationship. Since we are really lazy dogs at heart, we tend to do as little as possible to maintain that relationship, and still get all of the love, attention, and support we need.
Some of us (myself included) need occasional reminders (up to and including a smack with a 2X4 up side the head) that we are doing this, because from our end, everything is going just great (since we are getting everything WE need out of the relationship)....
Try talking to him, seriously about this, and do mention that this is not the way you intend to spend the rest of your life. If he doesn't want to step up and provide you with what YOU need, you are prepared to leave him.
That should do the trick. If not, then actually leave, if only for a little while.
Sometimes a wake-up call is needed, and sometimes, a wake-up call needs to be somewhat, well, shocking in nature.
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-18 04:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I can kind of understand what you are going through. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I am 14 weeks pregnant with our baby. After we found out I was pregnant EVERYTHING changed. We didn't talk as much or spend time together. We finally sat down and had a long talk. We both expressed our concerns. It ended up that we were both just scared to death! Things are getting much better between us now and life is going back to normal. (At least until the baby is born) I'm not sure if I've helped but I hope so!
Heather
2006-12-18 12:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person on top. Just think about what will be best for you two and your kids.
2006-12-18 12:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by Penny21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like u love him but he is not giving u all u need from him i would talk to him about it and if he just throws it off to the side like your nothing then u know that he dusent love u like he use to
2006-12-18 12:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you sit down and tell him all that your feeling? the basis for any lasting relationship is good communication..perhaps he doesn't know how you feel?
2006-12-18 12:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well follow your heart
2006-12-18 12:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋