How do I deal with being alone during the holidays??

Question

Im single since for about a yr and a half and have never been alone during the holidays especially Christmas and New Years.
My fiance' broke up with me. Last year he saw me those days but we weren't together just hoping for a miracle to happen. Anyways Im still so depressed and missing him I asked him to come and eat dinner at my house this year but he said no.
I dont know how to deal with this with every one so happy and me so sad and depressed my family thinks im crazy but I cant help it.
Can someone give me some advice?? PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

The first advice I would give you is not to call the EX.
It is over and you need to realize that and dwelling in the past will not make things better.
Things happen for a reason and the reason was that the 2 of you were not meant to be. You were meant for someone more compatible with yourself.
In regards to the holiday spend it with family, spend it with friends. Force yourself to go out so you do not have to be alone

Answer 2

Yyou find other people that also have NO ONE!!!
You could visit a nursing home and see many people that have been "put on a shelf" and forgotten!!! You DO something nice for some one else...and then you won't have time to feel sorry for your self!!!
You could volunteer to help out at a local mission that feeds the hungry...you can go to the children's ward of any hospital and read or visit with some of the children that will be staying there through the holidays!!!
In other words... find the true meaning of Christmas...it is about giving (of yourself!) and your time... ...it is about love. joy, sharing and caring!!!
It WILL get better...just don't sit around and let "inertia" set in...That is where the loneliness starts!
You may find that even though you are ALONE...you are not "lonely" there is a difference!
THIS COULD BE YOUR MIRACLE!!!!

Don't let your "ex" see you grovel, or appear desperate!!!
Who knows...he may find this NEW you...(one with strength, compassion for others and self love) attractive and irresistible!!!

And then..who knows what the new year will hold for you!!! Get excited about doing something good...you just MIGHT meet "Mr. Right" doing a good deed too!
Good luck!!!

Answer 3

This might sound really trite, but don't just sit around and think about how you are stuck in your house alone. Go out there and offer yourself up as a helper at local place that's going to serve dinner for the less fortunate or at a big church gathering or something like this. There's no reason to be alone unless we choose. And the words "alone" and "lonely" aren't the same thing. Keep in mind that many people who are in a full house surrounded by family members feel "lonely" because they are misunderstood or abused or unloved. And they aren't technically "alone." Take control of your situation. Let yourself provide some comfort to others who are lonely and you will quickly forget the issue of being alone.

Answer 4

Just be thankful that you are in good health and capable to recover from this heartbreak and move on. I have been heartbroken too but I found ways to move on...the easiest way for me was to learn how to socialize with outher people and get out with them so that I wasn't alone thinking about the situation. If this person won't be with you as you please..it is time to move on and stay a strong person. Don't let this person ruin your holiday while they are having fun...there are better things in life and besides, this isn't what the holiday is about...be happy! I wish you much luck to mend your heart. Go out and have some fun with some friends or new people.

Answer 5

I know how you feel! I was alone last year. It was horrible except for my little foreign friends from work. They were home and bored too only because they aren't Christan's celebrating our Holidays, so we all went out for sushi and hung out for two days. That was nice to have someone around. Even if it isn't a mate, you still need a friend or two. See who will home and get some folks together for dinner and drinks and maybe even midnight mass or something. Try to watch a funny movie too, laughing helps. Good luck, OK? GET OUT THE HOUSE! :)

Answer 6

Unplug the computer and get out and exercise. Get a hobby and meet some people. Stop looking at the past and what you cannot get back or change. Make some friends and be a friend to yourself in the meantime.

You could also volunteer at the homeless shelter Christmas Eve and day. It would really put your life into perspective.

Good luck.

Answer 7

for some people the holidays are hard its suppose to be a happy time but its the time of the year when some people get depressed the most.i am single too but i am not lonely i have family and friends .my advice just be around people that make you happy don't spent time alone .and just think you never know what the knew year holds for you....

Answer 8

Just for the next two weeks make yourself enjoy what's going on, and don't mention your ex's name during that time.

Bake some cookies, go shopping with a friend, visit relatives, help your family decorate the tree.

You can go back to being miserable and sad after the New Year.

Answer 9

i think that there is no good way to deal with being alone especially if you really cared for the partners. I will be aloone this yr and hopefully my life will call me and finally open up to me. I am a good listener yet she is horroble about speaking her feelings. peace out just dont drink or go to jail

Answer 10

Try socialising. You will meet new people and who knows you may hit a new one. You have come out of the breakup and you are doing fine. Very good, keep it up. The only way to get out of the depression is to get out on the road. Once you start meeting people all your blues will go for a toss.