Is she bored with me ?

Question

I am 32 and she is 22. We have a 15 month old little girl. I have been so nice for 3 years with her. I continuously mistrust her and cause problems saying she is not interested.
Lately though she is telling me to spend more time with friends and she wants this for herself too. I always pick things like, this morning to complain about. I got up with our daughter and fed her at 8 am. I have to go work at 12. She is still sleeping. She will get up and we will have a half hour at the most. I know if her friend called about seeing her shed be up. Point is is that I feel like she is not interested , she says she is. When i try to play like i dont care it doesnt work. She has never chased me. I am confused because her reciprocation of our relationship is that of a 10 year marriage. I dunno

Answer 1

Well first of all, you need to stop picking things to fight about. how do you figure that picking things to fight about are going to make it worse. What you really need to do is sit down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Dont throw things in her face, talk to her honestly about what you think. But i will say that if she has never given you a reason to doubt her fidelity then you have got to stop with the accusations. This can definitely put strain on a relationship. If you think that she is not feeling the same way about the relationship then try something to spice up the relationship. Take her to a nice dinner and a movie or have a couples night at your house. Its normal for people to want their own time in a relationship. It doesn't mean that she loves you any less, it just means she needs do be her own person and she wants you to also feel like you can be your own person to. To sum up what i mean, do things alone, do things with couples or friends, do things alone together! Good Luck!

Answer 2

Listen, it sounds like she has some sort of an issue with you that she's not wiling to reveal at this time. However you being nasty to her and accusing her of things isn't helping your situation. Have you ever thought that maybe she's sick of doing the same of things with you? If you want to keep this person in your life you need to do something to bring the spice back into your relationship.

First of all if you really don't trust her then you need to leave. You can be there for your child without being in a relationship with the mother.

You need to stop complaining and comparing what you do with what she does. You seem as though you're competing with her friends and it shouldn't be that way. If you live with her then there should be no need for competition. You should allow her to spend time away from you because after all she's coming hone to you. However then you'd have to trust her. You pretending not to care doesn't really work on her because perhaps deep down inside she doesn't care anymore as well and just doesn't want to admit it right now. Right now she may be exploring her options to see if her grass is greener some place that you're not. Once she finds someone or sees that whomever she's seeing other than you will work out she will be honest with you.

But now I'm going to brutally honest with you, it sounds like no matter what you do your relationship is over. Try talking to her and expressing how you feel and she makes you feel. Keep word is talk not accuse, yell or scream. Give her a certain time to make changes if not then I think you should pack up and move on or if the place in which you live belongs to you then I'd ask her to leave. Give her a certain amount of time to find a place and you help her look and come up with the deposit. Why continue to be miserable when you can and should be with someone that will make you happy.

In the meantime, stop trying and stop doing because she already knows what she doesn't do you will do that includes getting up with your child. Force her to get up and take care of the child like a mother should.

I am curious though to know how long did you know her before you decided to seriously date and have a child with her. You didn't see any of these signs prior to the child and living with her?

Answer 3

Well talk to her and find out her point of view on the relationship and remember shes still young and tht shes a mom and maybe wants to some time alone and just make sure tht even though your being understanding tht she wants to spend time w/friends shes a good mother and hey remember you dont have to be together 24/7 its not healthy and in my opinion thts how problems start when you feel like you cant breath and want time alone but cant get it. Thts probably wht she needs is space give it to her and then take it from there. Also take advantage and go out w/the guys and relax tht will also help.

Answer 4

not bored with you i guess, but less a romantic person you are, the lesser your partner. she's tired from all days work at home and taking care of the baby, and you come home late, and she's sleepy. she's got used to it..spending time with the baby and her friends..maybe she told you to spend your tme with your friends because she knows you'll have fun with them, and same goes with her. try to patch things up,make her realize that you're still there, and you love and care for her, be sweet.don't tell her things about being unfaithfull, it hurts us women when we're really faithfull with our partners,ending is, we get less interest about what interests you..