I don't know what to do. The mother says my son exposed himself and has not let her visit again. We have done everything we can to rectify the situation. We took him to a counselor who said there is nothing to worry about with him and that the girl may be just wanting attention. It has been a year and the mother still refuses visitation even though the original visitation schedule is still in place. I don't know what I can possibly do......
2006-12-18 04:07:35 · 18 answers · asked by Stephanie W 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
She was the same age - six at the time.
2006-12-18 04:14:47 · update #1
The counselor believed that my son did nothing wrong, other than just being a little boy. It is the girl's mother that has the problem. We have been trying to get into court for almost a year and she keeps getting the court dates rescheduled.
2006-12-18 04:16:30 · update #2
it could be she walked in one him when he was in the bathroom. or that they mother is just making up excuses because she jealous of something
2006-12-18 04:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by lizjaclyn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know everyone else has said this already but I wanted to add a few things that would really help your case. First go to friend of the court and tell them what is going on (Not just to the court the friend of the court has other ways of intervening) also be sure to document EVERYTHING that happened and happens, this can be the deal breaker in some situations, go back to the day that your son exposed himself (I have a six year old daughter, and even if your son did expose himself, usually kids do these kinds of things, it is natural to a point, as long as the little girl was not violated I do not see that it was wrong) now if there is a court order for visitation and the mother is not upholding it, she can be charged, however has she started a motion to change the visitation order? if she has then there may not be anything to do right now. If she filed any motion that would lead the court to believe that her daughter would be in danger (mentally or physically) then you may not get her charged with anything. I would talk to someone at friend of the court and see where that goes, again just be sure to document everything, and make sure the mother knows you have taken steps to ensure her daughters safety (even if she is not going about it the right way she might just be concerned for her daughter, or it just might be a way of "getting back at" her ex) good luck
2006-12-18 08:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jen B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree the mother has some issues. It makes me wonder if she had some sort of abuse in her own childhood and that's why she's being so out of control over this. Your son is NOT a pervert and she has NO right saying that. I hope the poor little guy didn't hear of this. I think it would make him feel bad.
It's up to your husband to take steps in seeing the step child. If he's really worried get to court because that may be the only way to do it! I feel for you, I have 3 boys, I know what they do and your son just did something that was silly and maybe he shouldn't have done it but if he hadn't done it before how would he know it's wrong? I feel sorry for these children. If you get to see her again make sure your son keeps his privates private! lol I know it's not funny but this woman is insane. He's not a pervert, it makes me crazy to read that. I hope everything works out ok. Good luck to you all and Happy Christmas!!!
2006-12-18 08:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to go back to court. It sounds like the mother just isn't letting the child visit. I am sorry but 6 year old boys do stuff like that. I have an 8 year old grandson that likes to sit around in boxers and we have to tell him that he has to get some shorts or pants on because he has a 2 year old sister running around. Since you have taken him to counseling and they said there is nothing wrong with him, then I would take her to court and get the visitation started again. There is nothing wrong with your son and he probably didn't even do anything. It sounds like it is just the mother trying to come up with a way to stop the visits.
2006-12-18 04:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
file contempt of court order charges against the mother... she's in contempt for denying visitation; but you will have to go through mediation and judgement again based on her "evidence". So I would get a copy of your son's medical record chart from the counselor and take it with you and it may be ordered to be reviewed again. it just sounds as if she's gunning to keep your step daughter away and all to herself. Go the legal route... it will at least show iniative and will prevent her from being able to say that your ex didn't care enough to fight for visitation. Also; i would definately start monitoring your son's behavior around the little girl once she comes back that way no more accusations could happen...
2006-12-18 05:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unless something drastic has happened between the two children then there is nothing to worry about it is the mother who is getting carried away with the situation it seems like she has been looking for a reason to keep her child from you and she has done it at the expense of two innocent children who are just curious of a boy and girl i know exactly where you come from because my son who is 7 now but when he was 4 we would visit my baby sister who has two daughters one two years older than my son and one is one year younger than my son and he always would play with the youngest girl and he said he was the daddy and she was the mommy they would put baby dolls in strollers and walk around in the yard like they were going to the doctors office or store and when my sister found out what or how they were playing she absolutly flipped out she balled him out and told him thats not how cousins play together and told me i needed to get the little pervert help so needless to say i dont talk to her or go around her at all i had to get help for my son cause she really hurt his feelings by calling him a little pervert.....so if i were you i would push my lawyer no matter what and get her sorry but back in court and i would make her prove any allegations she has said about your child and then i would sue her for slandering my child good luck and remember what goes around comes around God bless you all
2006-12-18 05:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, I don't know much about boys, since I have 3 girls. But I find it hard to believe a 6 year old can be a pervert. This girls mom is being unreasonable. This must be stemming from something else, likely between your husband and the mom's past.
2006-12-18 21:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have this same problem about a parnet not letting a child visit. Get a lawyer and go to court over it. That is the only way you can force the rights of your visitation to see this child.
2006-12-18 04:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine42000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am just going to echo the above. The only way to put this all to rest is the do it through the court. I know it sucks to have to wait, but trust me, denying the visitation is going to make her look bad in the courts eyes. Especially since you have taken measures to assure nothing deeper is going on.
2006-12-18 04:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to court and enforce the visitation. The other mother could go to jail for custodial interference for refusing the visitation. Make sure your husband enforces his rights as the girl's father!
2006-12-18 04:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by Rhonda 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At that age children tend to experiment with themselves. Girls do it too. Maybe you can try to assure the mother that you will watch them very closely. And if there is a visitation order in effect then you need to call the judge.
2006-12-22 00:34:01 · answer #11 · answered by L.L. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋