That started out sweet and whatnot but turned into a blunt mind speaking wanting nothing but sex asshole. Maybe I'm just stupid but I kept going back to him and giving him what he wanted, and I finally learned the last time I went to his house what I was doing.....proving to him he still had me strung even after we broke up. The other night he called me to come over and I told him no and that I was done with him. I kinda feel like **** now. Did i do the right thing?
2006-12-18 03:59:10 · 23 answers · asked by queenbee0687 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
noone deserves to be treated like a sex toy
you should be glad that you got out of that relationship before everything turned against you.
im sorry that you had to go through this.
but dont go back to the guy.
one day you will find the perfect guy
and he will change your life completley around
and you will forget all the bad things that this guy did to you....
2006-12-18 04:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by x3holdaloverclose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely have done the right thing. Whats important right now is for you to not second guess yourself.
It is okay if both know exactly what you're getting into, is for the same set of reasons. You seem more about a relationship and he's more on the physical/sex side. Either you are fine with it or you aren't. What's important is stay true to yourself.
It will take time to get over him. Keep yourself busy and do the things you love to do. Meanwhile, start going out with your other friends, even try dating someone else anew. Over time, you'll get over him and won't be punishing yourself for having gotten too attached to him.
Over time, you'll see him coming to you, behaving very differently, even willing to start a relationship with you ~ just to get you back. Just stay focused. Make up your mind and stick to it. It's easier said than done I know. But, that's the only sane way you can come out of this for good.
2006-12-18 04:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up? Try thinking of a reason. Was it because you THOUGHT you learned what you were doing by going to his house whenever he wanted you to or because you DID learn what you were doing..? Happiness has to be received by both parties.
You were constantly pleasing him whenever he wanted you to. That is a bit selfish of him from my point of view. And knowing that he still kept on wanting the same thing even after you broke up with him has given me more proof that this guy was in this relationship just for the sake of sex.
I prefer feeling like **** for a while than feeling like **** every time I know that I'm feeling used.
Please, do not feel down or guilty just because you're not pleasing this guy anymore. Stop the guilt and start thinking about YOUR happiness for once. No one will enjoy your life but you.
2006-12-18 04:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Riana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely did the right thing.
It's been said that men trade love for sex and women trade sex for love. I don't know if that's true but if it is you weren't getting your part of the trade.
It's normal to second guess yourself, you can stop now. If all he wanted was sex, then the relationship had no future and being with him was dragging you down and creating a barrier if Mr. Right shows up in your life.
It will take a couple weeks to adjust, then it will all be behind you. Spend time with your girlfriends and family, do activities you enjoy, keep yourself healthy and in two weeks you will be looking forward to the next truly sweet guy to come along.
2006-12-18 04:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear...:)
Oh, you most certainly did do the right thing....
The reason you feel lousy is because there are parts of you that are still attracted to him. Those parts are hard-wired into your brain, and are not generally under your "conscious" control.
I once went on a string of dates with a woman who I thought was intelligent, because she spent so much time before she would answer, and frequently touched her head. In reality, she was a complete idiot, who suffered migraines on a regular basis. Still, after a few weeks of no contact, I found myself calling her out of the blue.
Thankfully, we get over these people, and move on.
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-18 04:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah my ex used to do that stuff to me. the only time i would see him is when he wanted something. and then the last time he called me i told him to **** off basically, i felt bad for a lil while cuz of my feelings for him, but in a way, i knew that i could get better from someone else, who would accually treat me like i exist. so i think that you did the right thing, and i am proud that you realized it wasnt right for you, a lot of girls i know are still in denial. and end up getting hurt. dont regret it! you did the right thing.
2006-12-18 04:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by harasgirl2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. You feel bad because you're self esteem might be low and you're a giver, not a taker. Stay strong and be truer to yourself than some undeserving selfish person.
2006-12-18 04:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by SlapHappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing. He was just using you for sex. He know that some women have slow self esteem and he uses that to his advantage.
2006-12-18 04:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you did the right thing and should have said no the first time he asked you to have sex.. now you need to gain your self respect back and find someone who cares about you for you and not what you could provide.
2006-12-18 04:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you did do the right thing.dont be with some one just for a peice of ***. and you deserve better then that. and you can get better dont go back to the asshole..
2006-12-18 04:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by little_attractive_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋