2006-12-18 03:54:31 · 11 answers · asked by KL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's because egos are involved. If the truth is something that we don't want to hear, we get defensive and we immediately look for ways to refute what the other person has said. We don't like to think this other person that we're intimately involved with (this can include non-physical intimacy), is able to see our faults, or conversely, that they can have any faults.
Psychologically, we may revert to the feelings we had when our parent(s) criticized us. When we become independent adults, we feel that we should somehow be above those feelings of inadequacy and frustration. So when our romantic interest says something that takes us back to those feelings, we feel betrayed and angry.
How we conduct ourselves beyond this point, determines the direction our relationship will take. If we can take a step back and seriously consider their words, then we can make personal progress towards understanding ourselves and them.
If we are giving the other person the "truth", and they react negatively, we can still control the direction of the relationship by realizing that we probably have hurt their feelings and they need time to digest what we have said. We can communicate the "truth" in gradual doses, or in more sensitive language in order to facilitate their acceptance of our view.
We need also to keep an open mind, because our "truth" may come from our own biases and value systems. They may not feel there is a problem, at all. In this case, a truthful, sincere conversation about expectations should be undertaken.
This all assumes that we want to stay in the relationship, because all relationships take a lot of work and self-control.
Gayle
2006-12-18 04:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Gayle E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is usually hard to deal with because we don't want to know the truth, it will bring us into reality, then you will have to move on, change your standards or give up something you don't want to. What ever the reality is you will come to terms with it in a little bit and the rest will be OK.
2006-12-18 12:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually only the truth that hurts is hard to deal with and that is because no one wants to be hurt.
2006-12-18 11:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the truth is hard to deal with in relationships because so people cant handle the truth and they probably dont want to except it or in some cases they just dont want it to b the truth
2006-12-18 11:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by MsTop10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is human nature to have certain ideals and standards. Ususlly when the 'truth' is hard to deal with, it's because the other party has 'crossed the boundary' or done something out of line when compared to what we want.
To be able to better handle the 'truth' one has to keep an open mind and allow for 'human error'. It is easier said than done- believe me!!!
2006-12-18 11:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is hard to deal with because its hard to know what will offend someone you love and what to do if you offend them.
well i think that the truth is hard to deal with because the truth may be past experiences because there may be things you dont want your partner to know about you.
2006-12-18 11:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Tara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B/c people 4 eva try to think positive n think the relationship is goin to stay positive. but all relationships @ least have 1 down time.
2006-12-18 11:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because i quess you are scared to show the true meaning in relationships and being in a relationship means being honest with each other and telling each other everything
2006-12-18 11:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by Melons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because we humans are complex creatures..
2006-12-18 12:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by ½ L0VE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it hurts
2006-12-18 11:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by denise e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋