Last weekend we argued and he went out, I tried contacting him but no reply fri night, sat morning or sat afternoon. I went out and bumped into a famous rugby player who I had mt a few weeks ago. (A friend of mine gave him my number and he texted me as he was going to give me some rugby tickets). Nothing at all happened between us, and he knew I had a boyfriend. On Sat when I went out, I bumped into him again, and got chatting to him, again nothing happened, but I did enjoy the flattery and innocent flirting, esspecially since I was feeling so upset at the time. Me and my friend left the club and went home together. A week later the rugby player text me saying "Maybe I got the wrong end of the stick, but do u want to go out one night?" Unfortunatly my boyfriend saw it and has finished with me. I feel so frustrated as he seems so adamant and extreemly angry. I have told him nothing has happened, but he doesnt believe me. I know he really loves me, what should I do?
2006-12-18 03:47:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell the rugby guy, 'no'. Give your boyfriend a little time to cool off. Explain to him again that the rugby guy misunderstood the chat and nothing happened. Then wait for your boyfriend. Be calm and relaxed while waiting, yet persistent in what happened.
2006-12-18 03:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by cloverpondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is not engage in such obvious behavior looking for a replacement when you are in your next relationship.
Just about the only thing of value you have to offer a man in a relationship is loyalty. It's the only thing a man values about a woman. Everything else is just sex with women are are, quite frankly disposable. When you showed your boyfriend that there was no loyalty, it did two things. The first is it made him extremely angry. The reason is you basically tricked him. He did all the things a man does when he is preparing to spend the rest of his life with a woman, eventually get married and raise a family. This is a tremendous sacrifice on his part and NEVER done lightly by any man. In return, you showed him you are the type of woman who would leave with no warning and no reason. Not a big deal, since you were only at the dating stage. A major disaster that ruins his life, your childrens' lives and, quite frankly, your life, if happens after you are married and created your family. He has GOOD REASON to be pissed off.
The second thing it did was instantly demote you to a disposable woman who is for sex only. Since that is not what he wants, he instantly dumped you and you have zero chance of getting him back. And it will only just happen again unless you change what type of woman you are. If you don't, you will simply be used for sex by a succession of lower and lower quality men, as you get older and then dumped over and over by the type of men who might otherwise stay. This will go on until you are old and then you will latch on to a very low quality man who stays with you because he has no options. You will both, of course, be miserable.
It doesn't have to be that way, though.
2006-12-18 04:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is her boyfriend Nick her.. the rugby player is Colin Charvis and Claire and basically stated to the guy (verbatim from Claire), well i am single now why not when he asked her out. he then called her monday, which she hid from me and text her on sat night which i read and replied to.. Colin and I then had a few texts without him realsing it was me replying. i asked her to prove her innocence and text him and again, which she said she would, she reluctantly done so and then not give me the phone back... we had an absolute hell of an arguement with her clutching the phone... and then her running off when i got it from her as the text was asked for his things back.. what are you going to think folks..?
what she doesnt add is this has been a bone of contention for 2 months with intermittent texts off of him..
in my opinion she is a waste of my personal time, space and energy and i wish her all the best in finding someone who takes her and her three kids on and treated her the way i did...
bon voyage claire!
2006-12-19 06:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by nick m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on the date with the rugby player
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2016-10-15 04:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by lipton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that next time he should at least give a sign of life before he disapears
things like this happen a lot of times but at the end he must believe u , if not ...well there are a lot of trees which care other fruits as we say in my country !
good luck and have a lovelly xmas
2006-12-18 03:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry love .... thats what happens ...... What if you had seen a text on his phone from a girl saying thanks for the other night you were great...... What would you do....?
Exactly.... You had better get your "famous" rugby player friend to tell him that nothing happened.... or move on.....
Sorry...
2006-12-18 03:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EErrrr, how did the rugby player get your number??
not done yourself any favours there...would you like it if he got one of girls aloud's numbers?? i think not.
sorry that your relationship has ended over something so petty, maybe that just shows that it wasn't as strong as you might have hoped it was....chin up babe!!
2006-12-18 03:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by ReD eYe ReCoRdS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him time to take the biggest chill pill he can find. he is just mad adnd scared that you might leave him for that rugby player. if he does love you then he dnt want to lose you. he is mad b/c the guy knew you had a b.f and still asked you out. give him time.
2006-12-18 03:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wanted a way out of the relationship.
2006-12-18 03:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by theemadmonkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋