my girLfriend's good friend is having her debut. this is the debut with aLL that fancy crap, gowns and what not..part of the program is a cotillion. Of course, she was assigned to a partner..and it's not me. The reason for this is because we're in a LDR (i'm in Canada and she's in the PhiLippines). i don't know who her partner is, she doesn't know either. i don't know how to feeL and what to do. she can't back out because her friend is answering for the cost of the gown. she hasn't even given me the honor of dancing with her..right now i just feeL mad and hurt..i threatened her that if she puLLs thru with this i won't be going home for her own debut (w/c is feb. 4). shouLd i feeL this way? Ladies, what wouLd you expect your guy to feeL? heLp pLease..
2006-12-18 03:40:17 · 14 answers · asked by jzawingedpasserby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol, u should just relax. it's just a party and a dance. were you really going to fly over there just for her friend's debut? be glad you are off the hook!
2006-12-24 17:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♥perishedmemories♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, its just a dance. Its not like she is going on a date with the other guy. This is going to be a big event in her friend's life, and I don't think its your place to let your jealosy take over and ruin the day for either of them. But do go to your gf's debut. She will love to have you there. I'm also in a LDR, and would have no problem if my bf went to dances. Yes, I'd love to be his date, but that's just not possible sometimes.
2006-12-18 03:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by elanor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay you love her that's good but threats that's not good if you and your girlfriend fill the same then as a couple you should voice your concern to the friend and let her know that you choose to be together if the friend cannot respect that then you two have found the weakest link. Also if you never created a human than don't try and rule one your girl friend is your friend equal and soul mate she doesn't need another father she needs you and put away that insecure stuff if she didn't love you than she wouldn't be your girl friend think higher of your self. I hope this helps
2006-12-18 03:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by alonda H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the coming-out debut affairs are little more than social political events. It's just for show. If you aren't available, I don't think it's any slight to you for her to appear with a random escort. It's an event, not an emotional bond, and really you shouldn't get mad at her about it. It would be like her dancing with a manniquin.
These are the troubles with long-distance relationships, and if you can't bear to let her enjoy an evening with a meaningless escort but you can't get there to be there for her, I question the genuineness of your feelings for her. Frankly I think you're being selfish.
If you are serious about her, you need to trust her and you need to take her feelings into consideration. She hasn't hidden any of this from you, and I bet she would like for you to be okay with it.
2006-12-18 03:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually had the same exact problem when I was in my best friends. My boyfriend was upset, and threatened to leave me. I guess the person that fixed everything for me was my mother at the very end. Like she told him.....First of all....I had no idea who my partner was going to be. And second, no matter who it was.....they didn't begin to compare to him. And he relaxed. Because for mine.....the only person that I wanted standing next to me was my boyfriend. And now....I'm married to that boyfriend. I know it's hard but try not to put stress on her. This is supposed to be a very happy time coming up. With hers coming up and all. And I'm almost 99% certain that it's bothering her inside as much as it is bothering you. Just talk to her about it, and I'm sure you'll see there is nothing to worry about.
2006-12-18 03:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Champagne115 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your the jealous type. But remember it's just a fancy dance and don't really mean anything.I think your making more out of it then you need to. It is not your girlfriend's fault that she got partnered with someone else.
2006-12-18 03:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what, that is really immature of you. you urself said that she didnt know who her partner was, so that should tell you right there she doesnt have a choice who she is partnered with. and how dare you tell the girl that you love or want to be with that you wouldnt support them in something that obvisiouly would be important to them, and over something that she doesnt have control over.
so no you shouldnt feel that way. you should support her, and tell her if she is able to save a dance for you. hopefully she forgives you!
2006-12-18 04:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, you made me think of in this one. i'm Christian and it particularly is a no-no in our faith yet this would not mean that it is not happening. i do no longer understand how could i've got self assurance, yet i'm going to in all possibility purely kill my husband in front of the recent spouse...
2016-10-18 10:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much about it. You are causing both her and you a lot of undue stress by causing this scene. If there's nothing she can do about it - then let it be. If she still loves you - then what's the problem?
2006-12-18 03:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she didnt make the arrangements you cant be mad at her, she didnt organize itnor is she or you footing the bill, so maybe you should try to be more understanding.
2006-12-18 03:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋