so i like this guy and everyone else thinks he likes me too and im sick of waiting....i met him last year but we hardly ever talked...then we have a class together this semester which is when i realized i liked him....we also have a class together next semester and i want to ask him out but last year i asked this other guy out and he hasnt talked to me since and i dont want the same thing to happen to me and this guy because we are pretty good friends and we have a class together next semester.(last year everyone thought that this guy liked me and so i asked him out and nothing good came out of that, i dont want the same thing to happen with me and this other guy) what do i need to do...im oh so very confused.
2006-12-18 03:33:23 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can do a lot more with your eyes and your smile than you can sometimes with your mouth..... just wait a bit, he'll notice................
2006-12-18 03:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a bad encounter with one guy doesn't mean it's going to happen every time. Be confident in yourself and ask him out. Or you could take a more cautious approach and ask him little questions that give you a better idea about how he feels about you. Things like "What do you think of me" or 'hypothetical' questions. Or you could ask as if you were talking about a friend, but I don't recommend that because that may lead to mistaken thoughts and feelings. The best thing to do if you're nervous is try and find out how he feels or just get up the courage and ask him out.
2006-12-18 03:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by Diagonal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start it off slow, maybe after class see if he would like to have some coffee and talk about what went on in class. Not really asking him out, and maybe he will take the hint. Being to agressive can scare off some guys. If he is intrested it will happen, if he is not and you ask him out it may seem to him that you are desperate. And that is not a impression you want to give. Its always better to appear as if you are not looking, that leads to causual relationships which can lead else where.
2006-12-18 03:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by FC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people ask questions like this. "How do I ask someone out with running any risks?" Answer: You can't. If you want to get this guy, you're gonna have to put yourself out there and make it know and risk the consequences. You can do it indirectly and have someone ask for you, but as you probably know, some people don't respond to that because if it doesn't come from you then they think that it might not be true. And if it comes from someone they are sure to believe, (like your best friend for example) then you run the same risks as if you had done it yourself. So take a risk and go for it. Best of luck.
2006-12-18 03:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really have feelings for him I think you need to go for it but not be blunt about it. Ask him if he would like to come over and study for a test your having in the class or to help you understand it even if you really do play it off. Or ask him if he would like to go and have a bite to eat no strings attached and if you leave a good impression maybe it will end up leading somewhere. If nothing happens at least you don't have to walk around thinking what IF for ever. GO FOR IT GIRL
2006-12-18 03:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by heater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him already. You are not going to get the same response from every guy. Take it easy though, and don't go too fast. Some guys truly want a girl "friend", but most, I think, would like to notch it up a bit, and you said everyone thinks he likes you. Nothing ventured nothing gained, and if he is not responsive to you then it's HIS loss. Good luck.
2006-12-18 03:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask him out as a friend first. Tell him to come to a party your friends are having. Hang out with him while you're there. Get to know him better. Then you guys can talk while your in class. Eventually he'll ask you out if he thinks that you guys have chemistry. I think asking him out on a date while you guys barely know each other might be a bad idea.
2006-12-18 03:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by butterflyfairy28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, The most important lesson given to you here...is to NOT believe everything you hear...until you have seen, heard, and known on your own. *wink*
Well...I'd say you try to stay friends with this guy of your as long as possible, and if it's TRUE what you say about him liking you too, then there's a slight possibility that he won't freak out when you ask him out...Because you DID write that "Other's THINK"..(think NOT know...)
It'll be best if you DONT throw him the WHOLE 411 thing here..like just blurt it all out "Wanna be my boyfriend?" or "Wanna go out with me?"...because that is a little shocking...in a way
Instead, if there is a dance coming or some sort of movie he is talking about...even though you might not be interested...say this "Since I am going, too...would you like to come with me?" and once you TWO are there...work yourself around him, with the so obvious questions.
My best of wishes and luck to you and him...*wink*
2006-12-18 03:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i would do is ask him to go out on a group activity! like a bunch of your friends just going to the movies or pool or maybe even a party. try and be friends with him "outside of the class room" get to know what he is into. and flirt a little and maybe you won't have to worry about it he might just make the first move!
i say go with the flow and see what happens.
hope this is some good advice!
2006-12-18 03:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you realy like this guy you should become(or stay freinds) for a while. Let him get to know the real you before you let see the G-Friend you.If yall have been friends for a while then you should ask him out and see where it goes from there.It might be what he's waiting on too.
2006-12-18 03:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live your life in fear, because the "what-ifs" will torment you. With that said, you should communicate to this lucky individual that you are digging him. Perhaps the method is what is failing you. You can try something much more subtle. You can tell him that you find him "intriguiging" and would like to explore this interest over dinner. Your use of words will probably throw him off guard enough to help you maintain the initiative.
2006-12-18 03:36:22 · answer #11 · answered by CPT Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋