Why do some guys find it necessary to never admitt when they are wrong and place all the blame on the other person for reacting to their considerateness or disrepectfulness in an unapproving way? Why can't a guy just say, "I understand why you're upset." Why is it, "You should've done this or you should've done that." Some guys just never take responsibility for their role in the situation they play the blame game. Why is that? What is with a a man's twisted mind games. Does it make him feel better to make someone else feel guilty?
2006-12-18 03:29:10 · 11 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because they are plainly stupid sometimes
2006-12-18 03:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Setsuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all it's not all men who act this way. This particular guy just seems to not care much or he's not mature enough to take responsibility for his actions. It's much easier to blame the other person....turn it around to be their mistake. It's a sign of weakness in a man if you ask me. We all have to learn to accept the responsibility for things we say and do and until we learn to do that we can't have a successful relationship for very long. Both people need to learn to say I'm sorry when they're wrong and then things go much smoother and there's alot less arguing. He just needs to grow up a little more.
2006-12-18 03:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have to do that, it makes then feel good about themselves.
Men put things to the side and play like it never happen. That's why they put it off on other people.So that they don't have to think about it or answer any question. Plus if they admitt that they're wrong it makes them look soft. And that the first sign of being gay in there minds. But it is human and men are not the only ones who do it in fact i do it sometime. Just to keep me out of trouble.But it does catch up with you later.
2006-12-18 03:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people, guys AND girls, have a very difficult time accepting blame or responsibility. You will probably never hear them say "I understand" because they don't and most likely won't. And don't want to. In short, if you continue to hang around with people who have this problem you only get to experience more of it. IMHO Either they will eventually mature and grow out of it or they will be like this forever. How much time and effort you want to invest in a relationship like that is up to you.
2006-12-18 03:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by Whitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do NOT like to admit we're wrong - it's an ego thing. We never admit we're wrong when arguing with another guy, so why would we admit it with you?
Actually, we're even less likely to admit to a woman that we did something wrong - that would be a major loss of face and we'd go down a peg below you and you just can't let your woman get the upper hand like that!
Also, most men are trained from childhood to be "problem solvers" - we don't talk about problems just to talk about them, we discuss a problem for the sole and exclusive purpose of SOLVING that problem as soon as possible!
So when you're arguing with your man, remember that he wants to SOLVE THE PROBLEM AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE he is NOT interested in soothing your hurt feelings - he just wants to do whatever is necessary to stop you from arguing with him as quickly as possible.
And making a woman feel guilty is a quick and easy way to get her to shut the hell up!
Since most women are constantly feeling guilty all the time about every little thing, (even stuff that's not their fault) it's easy to get them to feel guilty - and when they feel guilty, they don't want to argue any more.
Problem solved.
It isn't a question of a man making himself feel better by making you feel guilty - it's a question of ending the argument and shutting you up as quickly and effectively as possible.
2006-12-18 03:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cant except responsibility or own up for his mistakes then he ain't a man,he's a boy.Little boys always pass the blame.I thinks it has some thing to do with their mothers,"it wasn't me mum honest" and because they got away with it then they think they can do the same when there older.Men can be a right bunch of mummies boys if you ask me.
2006-12-18 03:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Nookie bear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they are use to giving solutions cause and effect
not reasons whats wrong and where do we go from here...
plus a lot of them(men) dont realize saying sorry or just saying things will be ok are very important to us ..its called "comforting" a lot of them are not good at this comforting thing...
2006-12-18 03:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men aren't the only ones who do that.
2006-12-18 03:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all in your head. Women can NEVER admit that they are ever wrong.
2006-12-18 03:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can never get mine far enough to blame me, he just plain denies. I swear to god, he could be holding a banana and say "duh, what banana?"
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-18 03:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋