im a very nice guy & im good looking & educated ...
why is it hard for me to make a relationship with gurls .. ???
actually i am very shy person and never ever will try or tried to get in touch wih a gurl that I LIKE because im always afraid she wont accept me and really that makes me crazy and very down...
and when a gurl smiles at me and shows me that she likes me with her looks .. you know guys ..
i get afraid .. its not really afraid .. but kinda hesitated to go and talk to her ...
stupid i know but what do i do ????????????
2006-12-18 03:18:29 · 16 answers · asked by reyad_aamt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to overcome your shyness.
And develop your self-esteem.
Good luck!
2006-12-18 03:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Asian Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me tell you something..
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now and plan on keeping it that way for as long as..well ever.
He didn't date anyone for seven years before finding me. It's not because he couldn't, because girls threw themselves at him all the time. But he didn't want to get into a relationship without having a real connection and feeling with a person. He is extremely good looking, very smart, and nicest guy around with amazing morals.
He had a crush on me for a few years before he finally got the courage up to ask me out.
All I can tell you is, don't hesitate! What do you have to lose? You're already not with a girl so if one turns you down, nothing is lost right? Don't let it get you down if a girl says she isnt into you, there are PLENTY of girls out there and chances are there is only a small percentage that is right for you, you just have to get to know girls until you find who that is!
Sure, you're shy, but the right girl will accept that and understand, don't get yourself down over the possibility of being rejected when it hasn't even happened yet! If you don't try, you wont have anything with that girl anyway, so, for God's sake, try! Haha, have a bit of self-confidence!
I really hope that things start looking up for you. Just remember that before you can find someone to be with, you have to come to terms with yourself! Good Luck with everything!
2006-12-18 11:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by alicodges 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man I feel your pain. I used to be like that too. One sure thing to get a girl interested is to make her laugh. Women love funny guys. As far as being shy, that's not it. You are scared of rejection and that sucks. 90% of women would love to talk to you as long as you don't mutter "what's your sign" or any other corny pick up lines. Just approach them like it an old buddy of yours. Pick out something about her, clothes, shoes, purse, anything. Ask a question about it and POW, you are in conversation. Women absolutly love answering questions, even if they don't know the answer. Try it out, I'm sure you will have some success. Don't give up if the 1st person you approach shoots you down eigther. Some people are just b**ches, don't let them get to you. Good luck!!
2006-12-18 11:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by nattibadboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you afraid of? You can talk about everything under the sun and all girls will answer you back. Just practice in front of your mirror, different things that you would like to say to the young lady. The more you practice the better it gets. Its not very hard, especially if you are a cute guy.
2006-12-18 11:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are more sensitized by rejection, I was for years. I can't think of how many opportunities lost from lack of initiative.
Now, I just take things a lot more tongue-and-cheek when it comes to dating and meeting people. If things don't work out the way I wish, I can just shrug it off and say it was her loss.
I have fared much better for it.
Remember: You will probably meet your "dream girl' when you are not specifically looking for her. You'll probably meet her at a grocery store rather than some bar.
2006-12-18 11:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are girls out there who appreciate a shy guy?!?...or on a more personal note i should rephrase it and say 'quieter/mysterious' types....but yeah, girls are attracted 2 confident men but it doesnt mean u have to act like the class clown! Just be yrself and dont think about weather they like u or not. Like u said..You already know yr a nice guy so just try be their friend...Every girl loves a guy who can just be their friend...at first!?!..Weird hey? But try 2 say somethin even if its not a lot and if u really cant at least talk and muk round with yr mates when u r round girls, that way they may realize yr just shy and come approach U?!? goodluck =)
2006-12-18 11:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ReeLsWeeeT♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you are. Except you probably talk at least have friends. I have nothing, so at least feel better you are in a better social situation than others.
Well apparently girls like confident guys, so when you try to approach a girl.. just be confident and start talking. Don't fear rejection, just learn from each rejection you experience.
2006-12-18 11:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all stop downing yourself cause the more you do that less you feel about yourself trust me it's someone out there for everyone you just havent found the right one yet.stop being so shy and just talk to them.everyone get's shy but you have 2 over come that.if u don't try how will u know if she likes you or not.most people don't try to talk to someone cause they are afraid of rejection i know been there done it.just try it!!
2006-12-18 11:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by thugmisses_229 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out as friends. That way there is no pressure. Then, it may or may not turn into something more. If not, you have made a great friend out of it. As you get more female friends, they will be able to help give you pointers and introduce you to more girls. This may also help you get over your shyness. Good luck!
2006-12-18 11:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_carmel_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to look at the girls like regular friends...don't try to impress them and just talk about your life and be kind.
You see...it's like everything in life: the more you think of it, the more nervous you become when you step in front of it.
So..."let's make thing's better"...I would say "... best", but that's Philips :)))
2006-12-18 11:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by Bobi G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you wont talk to a girl, there is no way you're going to have a relationship. stop being so shy!!! just go talk to people.
girls dont like insecure guys.
2006-12-18 11:20:33 · answer #11 · answered by mickey g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋