I was abused by my husband, we were abandoned when he left to a new base. and now after JAG and IG cant get him to pay the BAH we are now homeless. The SGT major wont let us have an AER loan because he believes its best to send us home. Home for us is Alaska. We are now in FT Drum NY. This sgt major has made more hurdles to jump through rather than help us with a small loan that my husband and his unit has agreed to already. the only person in our way is this one sgt major. How do i get around this guy to get AER to approve of this loan.
2006-12-18 03:13:43 · 18 answers · asked by Melody 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Go over his head, your not going to get in trouble for ignoring the chain of command because you are not in the military.
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Just checking in, how are you doing? You have received some good advice here. I hope this gives you some strength.
BTW, whatever you wind up doing, do it with class. Present your situation clearly and articulately, sit down and write all of the grievances you have against your husband and anyone who stood in your way while trying to get help for yourself and your/his CHILDREN.
Sit down with a friend and review the list. Make as many corrections as possible, then make multiple copies of the list. Carry several copies with you at all times. When you are talking to someone who is higher up the chain and you feel that you are flustered, scared, intimated, or unable to make them understand what is going on, hand that person the list. It will facilitate the response time.
You have to overcome any emotional weight and feelings of helplessness, and turn yourself into a focused warrior who knows what is right and will not be stopped until your children are properly cared for.
Remember, be firm, but above all be respectful.
Good Luck.
2006-12-18 03:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is fishy as hell. If you want more money and have contact with but want a divorce too, then divorce him and receive and alimony. Get a lawyer regardless. Your story has many, many holes which have been poked in by other posts. I mean where are YOU at? You have an military ID?, if so go to JAG (legal assistance on post). If you have one, then you must be on some type of speakng terms to be enrolled in DEERS. If you coughed up your regular type of ID to a recruiter so he could get housing back when he enlisted, then right there something is foul. I don't why a recruiter would be involved in him getting BAH after he is in the service, after he bailed on you guys. Bring proof of all this and talk to his commander. I mean he did put a roof over your head and you have on-post privelieges...where does this husband live then, with you or in the barracks? Once again, this doesn't make sense. You can work also if possible. This is the stuff we deal with a work all the time. Remember we see lot these posts (normal of Sundays) here. And guys are always made to be the villains each time. I have found different. Just my opinion from what I see and deal with
2016-05-23 04:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a bigger stink. No one will listen unless you go to the right people. Sounds like the SGM is dragging his feet. If this soldier abandoned you and your kids you get a percentage of his pay, plus child support. If you are still married to this fool, then you deserve at least that. Go to the Post Commander and demand something be done immediately. You should not have to be homeless, just because this abuser wants to be cute and think he got away with something. He can actually be kicked out of the military for this sort of thing.
2006-12-18 03:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the local legal services on base.
Does his unit have an Ombudsman? They can help if she is good an really cares to pass item sto the command. You also can ask the local TV station to help,once the news get involved the army will investigate immediately. Ask to see the his unit commander or better the commanding General of the base, the more pressure you apply the higher the leverl of response you will receive.
I also would contact he chaplian. You actually have the law on your side. There is no force someone to pay their bills, they can order him to setup and maintain an allotment check
2006-12-18 04:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by will_955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really surprised the IG was not more help, and I would hit him up again. AER is not officially part of the military, so I doubt there is much the SGM can do there, but if you have tried going through AER directly, and you are still not getting help, you do not get help from the base, you have to go to THEIR higher.
If he is still in the military and you are still married, he has to give you a percentage of his pay. If you do not get any help from his division or base commander, talk to your Senator and Congressman - go to www.house.gov and www.senate.gov, and get the contact information for your representatives. They will take action, and the military will sit up and pay attention, I guarantee it!
2006-12-18 03:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by Doyle Hargraves 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go thru the army social services, the chaplin, the army AER programs, file an EO complaint, I think your a civilian, so you can sue the army, if I am correct, I may be wrong, but check into it. Try family advocacy programs, every program the army offers, there has to be a program you have to try before you give up. Of its in your divorce degree, you then sur your husband for the BAH, if no one can make him pay.
2006-12-18 04:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get thee to a lawyer and get a court order requiring your spouse to pay child support and/or alimony. without that court order, JAG and IG cannot do anything.
the Sgt Major is correct.. in the case of abandonmenet, the family is no longer authorized to live in base housing, as the sponsor is no longer stationed there. All they are required to do is send you back to your HOR.
2006-12-18 04:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back to JAG and list your grievance , talk to the post commander , and if that does'nt work see the chaplain . There should also be some form of family assitance group there that will also help you .
I'm very sorry to hear that a soldier in my army treated you that way .
God bless you .
2006-12-18 05:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ray H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go straight to the commanding officer of Fort Drum. March right into his office and insist on being helped tell him your husband abandoned you and children he will get you some action.
2006-12-18 03:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
doyle and army girl have the best answers here. All CO's and IG's pay a little more attention when congress or senate get involved.
2006-12-18 04:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by here and now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋