not giving up..?

Question

me and my ex broke up about two months ago.. the first week we didn't talk.. then slowly we started talknig again and hanging out, now i sleep over everynight like before, we cuddle and kiss but no sex.. this past weekend we did everythnig together.. she came to my work christmas party and i helped her fix a flat tire and ended up buying her two brand new tires for her car.. so it's like we're dating again, but we're not.. everyone i talk to says she just likes having you around becasue you do things for her and shes using you.. blah blah blah.. maybe a little, but i fee l iek theres still more there.. she has come out and said "i don't want to date you again" but then why is she calling me 10 times a day asking me to do things with her.. why are we laying in bed together.. i think she's afraid things will go back to when they were bad, but knowing what i'll loose i would never ever do anything to have things get like that again.. i need some feedback, this is a tough time for me, and all i want to be is with her.. sorry if i sound like a sad person, but i really love her and i'd do anything to just have one more chance with her.. any feedback is welcomed, thanks

Answer 1

Well, it sounds to me like there's some give and take, at least. She's not just using you, I think, since she accompanied you to your Christmas party and she allows you to sleep over. My advice to just take it slow and not rush it. Even thought she may not be comfortable with the idea of dating right now, she may become more accustomed to it if you don't get pushy and try to speed things up. Good luck!