Should we have 2 or 3 children?

Question

I have always wanted 3 children. My husband just wants children, he isn't picky about the number, "as long as we can afford them".
We recently bought a wonderful house with 3 bedrooms. We are in love with this house and the neighborhood and don't plan on moving any time soon, if at all. My issue is that there are only 2 bedrooms for the kids. If we have 3 kids, two will have to share. With only 2, no one has to share. We don't have a basement or bonus room, so the only place for them to "play" will be their bedroom or the family room. What do you think?
Also, is the cost of raising 3 kids significantly more than 2 kids?

Answer 1

I think the number of children you have it entirely up to you. You might have one and find that is enough, or find that you want 3. I have twin sons who are 2 1/2 years old. We were actually thinking 2 was good! We were suprised and blessed when we found out a 3rd son is on his way. Each child brings new costs to the household. Clothes for 3 children vs. 2, food costs, diapers, medical ect....With going on my 3rd child, i know this time for sure he will be the last. We want to make sure each child has the attention they deserve and we want to make sure we can properly care for all 3. You guys will know exactly whats right when the time comes! Children are great.
As far as the sharing the room, the only thing i am worried about, my twins share a room because currently, they dont like to be apart, but that means the new baby gets a room all to himself and im worried later on the twins might wonder why little brother gets his own room....guess then it will be time to look for a 4 bedroom! Good luck to you guys! Merry christmas!

Answer 2

3. The more the better.

I have 3 brothers and 1 sister. I couldn't imagine life without anyone of them. They are my best friends. A loving home is such a happy place when you have a lot of siblings to play with and depend upon.

My parents raised us on a Minister's salary. Probably little over $30K a year. They didn't need a lot of money to raise us. We wore hand me downs and didn't have the all the newest gadgets and toys but we made our own fun and grew up in a loving home.

We also had a 4 bedroom home to split amongst the 7 of us! The parents got a room. The girl got a room and the four boys got the last two rooms, two boys a piece. I had to share a room a lot growing up. Not as much privacy but it makes you accountable.

And just a side note - don't listen to the overpopulation person. Take a drive from one big city to the next biggest one. You might travel 3 hours and all you'll see is trees or fields or farmlands. There's plenty of land out there for people to live on.

Answer 3

kids sharing a room isnt a problem! it can strengthen their relation ship! and playing in their bedroom means that should (in theory) be the only place there is a real mess!!

if you keep the baby things from the first pregnancy the second etc will be cheaper to begin with.

as far as cost of raising children goes it all depends on your lifestyle and theirs.

out of school activities will cost extra so will playgroups/creche when younger and will you have to give up work to raise them?

im not sure exactly how much more it will cost but if you take in to account

food costs
bills
clothing for each child
school/creche fees
and yes thing do start to mount up!

Answer 4

Is it such a crime that the kids will share a bedroom? My sister and I voluntarily shared a room because it was more fun. It fosters sisterly or brotherly affection. The more kids you have the more it costs howeverjust remember that kids are fun and they want to have brothers and sisters to play with. My parents just had two girls and we always wanted them to have more kids. See how it goes. Oh and China is overpopulated but Europe is actually paying people to have more kids because they are not replacing their population. Don't think that you are selfish for having more than two kids. That is perfectly ridiculous. I have four kids and I cant imagine life without two of them.

Answer 5

My personal feel is that every child deserves a own room plus it makes it easier to control their sleep time.

However, you need to do what feels right for you and you wouldnt be the first family were kids share a bedroom.

Maybe you could have an addition added to the house before having another child?

Answer 6

3 children because 2 can get lonely playing with their brother and sister everyday and eventually they will get tired of playing with the same person everyday. Also when you have a kid dont wait a couple of years to have another make sure that they are close in age because if one is 14 and the other is 6 they won't have much in common.

Answer 7

it costs a lot of money just for one child, you should play it by ear, maybe you want only one child and a computer room or office. You can't just say i'm gonna have 2 or 3 kids, what if you have a child who has special needs(which of course takes a lot of time and patience). If you are unsure of what to do you should probably wait to have any children, and its always a good idea to talk to a counsellor first.
Good Luck!!
Merry Christmas

Answer 8

Yes the cost of kids is significant.

How much does it cost to raise a child?

How much have you got? is the answer.

Kids can share rooms. Its actually good for them. They might beat each other up but they do learn to coperate.

Answer 9

Our planet is currently suffering an overpopulation crisis. It is wrong of you to have more than two children (to replace you and your husband), when there are so many thousands of children up for adoption that need good homes. I stronly encourage you not to bring more than two new children into this world while others suffer. I believe it is a very selfish thing to do.

Also consider that if if we limit the number of children we have ourselves, now while we still have time, we won't have to come to a point like in China where people are forced to only have one child. This is a very serious issue, even if it's not obvious here in the U.S. and other developed countries.

Answer 10

3, the more the better, having more kids to visit you when you're real old is nice