well me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year. 8 months ago we introduced our parents and they hit off. we all live in the same house, me my bf, my sister, his brother and our parents. well in february or march they might be getting married... what happens to us. i love this guy so much and we were together first by the way. but what do i do? im afraid of what people will say.
2006-12-18 02:59:15 · 24 answers · asked by boicarazi12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As far as I know, there's no laws about step-brothers marrying step-sisters and vice versa. Go for it. Let your relationship go where it will. You're not related by blood so, if you ever did want to marry, you can.
It might be awkward if your parents divorce or you and your boyfriend break up but don't let anyone's remarks sway you one way or another. Follow your heart.
2006-12-18 03:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 6⤋
I think you should have a talk with your boyfriend and see his views on this situation. Afterwards, it may be best for you both to go to your parents and talk to them about it. But, I wouldn't worry about everyone else NOT in this situation. Do what is best for you not for others. Besides, no matter what path you take in life or what decisions you make, there will always be someone or a group of people who will think negative toward your actions. You can't get out of that. So, it shouldn't really matter, right?
I would definitely bring up the what if's of the future. What if, as someone said before, you and your boyfriend break up. It will likely cause conflict in the household. or What if your parents divorce. Have a plan that if something like this should happen, it will not destroy the other's relationship. There's nothing wrong with this situation. It may seem awkward, but it shouldn't stand in the way of your happiness or your parent's happiness. Good luck!
2006-12-18 03:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by *CaRpE*DiEm* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should any thing happen to you an your boy friend? how I know there are people out there that will say [ he will be your brother now - what happen if you two brake up - he brains in other girl] well what if you two really work out. there is not one person out there that can say I knew one hundred percent that this man or woman would love only me an me only for the rest of my life. Well first your mom is merrying your boy friend dad just that does not mean he is blood an just think if you two merry just think of the fun you all can have when you all meet some one. I say dont worry about what other people think what happen is what happen no matter if your mom an his dad or together or not. now understand that if you an your boy friend ever break up will you be o.k seeing him with other girl or him seeing him seeing you with other guy. No one can tell you that this will be bad or good you an your boy friend will just how to see what happen's down the road.
2006-12-18 03:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the 21century, most ppl will not blink an eye. And if you think that your family is becoming too tied up, try watching Oprah or Jerry Springer:-).
There are a lot of ppl who actually marry family and I mean like first cousins, etc.
You and ur bf should continue ur relationship just as you were, this is actually a plus as you now have family in common.
ur parents deserve happiness as well so don't let this stop either of you from making dreams a reality!!!
This is not sarcastic- But why not have a double wedding if you and bf are ready to tie the knot?? (Just a suggestion). It will stop any negative vibes that may arise. And you can never please everybody anyway!!
2006-12-18 03:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want it, you get an abortion, but not behind your parents' backs; at least telling the truth would make them feel a LITTLE more at ease. Also, your girlfriend may need her parents' permission to abort, depending on what state you live in (Planned Parenthood's website has an excellent list of states and their abortion policies). Hell, they might even flip you two some cash for the procedure, just make sure you're 100% truthful with the adults or else it'll backfire. Secrets and parents don't mix well. @ Ruby: Who are you to say something is "outta the question" for a couple you don't even know?
2016-05-23 04:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they marry that will make you step brother and sister.... but as long as it is not blood there should be no worries.....
People will always say what they want no matter what and if you let what other people have to say get to you then you will have problems and drama your whole life...... You an your mother deserve to be happy so go for it and have a good life and just ignore the immature people who want to pass judgement.....
It is your life and if you love this man nothing anyone could say would change your mind.... Good Luck and I hope all goes well with you are your family
2006-12-18 03:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
k so this situation is alittle weird but not uncommon. Legally no one can stop you from being together you are not blood related so marriage and children are okay. of course ppl are going to talk but thats true no matter what the situation is. You have to decide if you are going to be happy no matter what. The only real hard thing about this type of relationship is going to be sorting things out for your children. But good luck and go be happy dont worry about other ppl.
2006-12-18 03:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by starrmerlan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what??? My parents are actually step-siblings. I am being serious. In all honesty. My grandparents were married to each other first (second marriages for each) My dad was away in the services when he came back he met my mom. They are not related and they didn't gorw up together. They met as strangers. So what. There was no problem in our family or community.
2006-12-18 04:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by chai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 1st off who cares what people say i mean if evertyone cared about what people say then this world would just suck lol but um i mean you and your b/f were together 1st and i mean when they get married you guys will be "brother and sister" BUT not by blood right?? i mean everything will be fine just talk to each other and your parents i mean dont end an awsome realationship pver it .....if u have been dating for over a yr thats awsome
u guys will be fine
good luck :)
2006-12-18 03:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if your separate parents decide to marry, it still does not make you and your boyfriend brother and sister. Don't worry about it. Only idiots will think there is something really wrong with this arrangement - BUT, everyone will joke about it. It will come with the territory, just get used to it!
2006-12-18 03:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about what other people think. It is only important what you and your boyfriend think. Even if your parents get married you are not biologically related so there is not a problem. You do what you think is right and forget everyone else. Good Luck!
2006-12-18 03:06:33 · answer #11 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋