I think he's about to propose to me within the upcoming year, but he really ticks me off sometimes. We've been dating for over a year, yesterday he barely would talk to me because I spent time with my sister. He says I ignored him yesterday and he wont answer my calls and when he has answered, he's very short with me and will not tell me he loves me before he hang up the phone. He'll say, " oh o.k." after I tell him. I love him with all my heart, but this drives me nuts. When I express this to him, he always tries to turn things around to make me feel like I've done something terrible to disrespect him or to jeopardize our relationship.
I just needed to vent... thanks
2006-12-18 02:58:18 · 26 answers · asked by Jai C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should think about it twice before you get married if he proposes. Otherwise, if he's so possessive, it will be like hell to you.
2006-12-18 03:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Setsuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONFRONT, CONFRONT, CONFRONT!! That's all I can say. It's obviously something going on. I am not saying that it could be him being unfaithful, it could be something else. When you confront him, DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT back down. When someone is guilty of some wrong doing, when backed up against a wall, they will try to turn it around. While doing this, please make sure that you are sure that this is the man that you want to marry, especially if he is acting like he can't say "I love you" before hanging up the phone. If you've done NOTHING wrong, you have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to be guilty about. It just sounds like he's trying to break it off and he's being a coward about it. I don't believe anyone who is in a one sided relationship deserves to be in that kind of situation. Good luck :o))!
2006-12-18 03:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by China Doll 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like this guy is very insecure and/or immature.
You need to talk with him and you guys definitely should have pre-marital counseling. If you think this is bad now, it will be worse after marriage.
I know you said you love him, but marriage is a partnership, a covenant relationship and takes 2! You cannot make a relationship work alone.
God Bless and good luck!
2006-12-18 03:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sherral 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could have a depression problem, and wants to feel needed. He could be ignoring you because he thinks you need space. He might be short with you in conversations because he does not want to talk about his problems. If you love him with all your heart try to work it out with him. Let him know you love him and if there is anything wrong you will be there for him. Also let him know firmly but not aggressively that you do have a life outside of him but he is still a very important part of it.
Does he have many friends? He could very well be lonely and does not want to show it
2006-12-18 03:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly how you are feeling. My ex, of 2 years, and I were talking about Marriage. Over time, he became upset, and too busy to be bothered with me. For the last three months of our relationship, he wouldn't even have sex with me. If your relationship is like this now, when you are married, it would be ten times worse. You have to make a decision on if he is worth it. Talk to him, let him know how you feel before it is too late.
Just thought I could help.
2006-12-18 03:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by Angelica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 02:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to know that you can put up with this dude for the rest of your life!!! MARRIAGE IS FOREVER! (almost) He sounds very immature holding back love as punishment to you...what is that? If he does propose to you, you might want to think about taking an extra year or two before the wedding to make sure that he is the ONE.
2006-12-18 03:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by outspoken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is weird because I am in the exact same situation! He is trying to control you by making you feel guilty for not spending every waking hour with him. He does this by not answering calls, not saying he loves you, turning everything around so it's your fault, etc. Please, do not give in! You have done nothing wrong. You need to stand up to him and explain the situation, and firmly state your opinion.
2006-12-18 03:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by Yalena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are big babies sometimes, and sometimes, you almost have to deal with them as such, not in a condescending kind of way, but how about this:
Flat out ask him. "Hey, I'll understand if you were mad (you don't have to agree), but I just need to know if hanging out with my sister upset you in any sort of way?" If he says no, take it as a no and move on, ignore his behavior (that is what we do with kids) and he should drop it, if he doesn't, then you're dealing with a man who needs to grow up. If he says yes, then listen to him, find out what the deal is and what has him feeling insecure. Be encouraging because you want him to open up and an open line of communication in the future. Validate his feelings and discuss compromises.
Good Luck
2006-12-18 03:09:04 · answer #9 · answered by Si S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to let him know that he is not the center of the universe. You have a family as well that cares for you and you need to keep in touch with them. Tell him you love him very much, but he also needs to cool his jets especially if you two decide to get married.
2006-12-18 03:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO- you don't expect marriage with that kind of behavior
A guy like that is controlling and Greedy - just by what your saying I can already see how your marriage is going to end up - he's going to be controlling over you, he's going to cheat on you, and he's going to get rid of you eventually because your not kissing his a$$ - If I were you I'd go to a club scoop a man and ditch Narcistic Bean.
2006-12-18 03:04:14 · answer #11 · answered by Jen I 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋