HeLP!!!!!!!!!!PLeASE!!!!?

Question

i guess my other question was not written well enough so i had to re-word it. i am pregnant with my boyfriends baby and his mom does not like me i am 15 and feel like she blames it all on me

Answer 1

Darling, do not take so hard what his mom says. How old is your Boy friend.... Not many mothers, accept and treat a daughter in law kindly.... You had a little bombshell you dropped.... At the age of 15 no less. What did your parents say.... Yesterday I saw a Dutch report on the same issue with two families... The young couple got married, and live in the Attic with her parents, and they await the cming birth with great joy.... Do not let your insecurity be transferred to your baby to be... It is aware of emotional upheaval... Maybe when things do not clear up for you to enjoy your coming motherhood. You can weigh other options... A conception that is discovered by the mum in a shock reaction, already has the first injury of not feeling wanted in its complete soul.... I wish there would be a simple answer.... Teenage pregnancy is not al fun and games.... Why would we elders not give precaution to our children.... Your boyfriend also has harsh choices to make.... Can grow into his role... All this bickering doesn't give a good vibe to your baby to hang on to... Seek help with this in your life. But don't be afraid, to contemplate abortion.... Do not drag on a pregnancy, this pregnancy when you not wholeheartedly are convinced you will make a good mom to your future child The future is what we adore and hold above ourselves, and we Love Beyond any living soul as a mother....I hope your youth will strengthen you when You decide to have this baby.... But not count on your Boy friend to rely on... Motherhood makes you and your child... The man may never be an aspect in our contemplation as Mother And Child Reunion is only a motion away...(Paul Simon 1972/1973)You giveth it life and birth to it. You are the one to fulfill your Vow of Motherhood, and 24 hours a day for the longest time your child will be in your care...

Answer 2

Your boyfriends mom is simply disappointed--in both you and her son. 15 is way to young to start having babies...but at this point, you are a little beyond that word of advise. So, all you can do now is forgo the rest of you adolescence, and take responsibility for your baby. If you show an adult attitude and act in a responsible manner, then your boyfriend's mother may begin to respect you--she may never like you--but as long as she respects you, then cultivating a healthy relationship between her and her grandchild will be a lot easier.

So...I guess the big thing to start thinking about is the baby. Once you become a mother, you become second string and what you want, need, would like to have most of the time will (and should) come second to the needs of your child. This is a harsh reality--and it will mean that you will "miss out" on lots of fun stuff--but that is why everyone will say that "15 is too young to be having babies".

So, suck it up...its not important that your boyfriend's mother hates you...its important that you love your baby. I'm sure she'll love her grandchild...but even if she doesn't, that won't matter as long as you love the baby.

Answer 3

Well i guess your next step is whether to keep the baby! Which i hope you do even if you can't take care of it then do an adoption and look into your choices. As far as the boyfriends mom goes. She can't do anything now i mean she can forbid him to deal with the baby but really it's the guys choice. It would be best if you your boyfriend and parents all sat down and talked together of course they are not going to be happy but your parents in the end will help you out more than anyone you know! I am sorry about your luck but just think it takes two to make a baby not one he had his part in creating the piece of earth you are now developing the parents always want someone to blame so they can't blame themselves for there lack of parenting! Good Luck with everything i wish you the best in all!

Answer 4

Not very fair of her, but in the end, 50% of the mess made you.
And her son the other 50%. Tell her so. Say you know she blames you, and that's she's half right. She might like the fact you admit that. And then get around the table with your BF, your mother and his mother and make up a plan for your child. From now on you're a mother, nothing else can be more important. You will have to grow up. A little early, but so be it.
Don't complain like a little schoolgirl. Behave adult. You'll get more respect and your child needs a woman as a mother. Not some teenager. So behave as one.
Sorry but that's the truth.

Answer 5

She's probably not thrilled about the situation being that your only 15. Or maybe she's thinks your trying to trap her son with this. Maybe you should try to ask her why it is she doesn't like you and if you plan to keep the baby, tell her you want her to be a part of her grandchild's life. You got a tuff road ahead of you girl... Please give some serious thought to what you really want to do. You're only 15 with so much life ahead of you, and a baby will change your entire life and future. Good luck hun!

Answer 6

although you have your faults, he is the one who didn't make sure he was wearing a condomn. It is both of your fault.... and i wouldn't even call it a fault... i would call it a blessing.... jesus christ and the heavenly father has blessed you with a baby.... a baby is a miracle sent from heaven above... let her know that you appreciate her point of view but that you are going to have the baby and take good care of it to the best of your ability and even tell her that she should feel blesses to be getting grand child... there are many parents who dream of being grandparents and never get the chance... if this doesn't work send me a message i will think of something in the mean time pray about it before you confront her.

Answer 7

I would be more concerned with how your own parents feel about this...remember they are the ones SUPPORTING YOU. She has right to be mad at the situation though considering in her eyes her baby boy just threw his life down the gutter. Also you should be more worried about how you are going to care for this child and get an education/work. If you feel that you cannot handle having a child I strongly recommend you give it up for adoption before ever consider aborting it. Either way if this is the biggest issue in your current situation then consider yourself lucky.

Answer 8

Well of course you being so young she is very upset at the fact you guys are smart enough to protect yourselves while having sex. But it may just feel like that Im pretty sure she has made her point with her son also. Just continue respecting her and letting her know that you are not trying to mess up her son future.

Answer 9

Wow, the rest of your life just changed. Listen, it obviously isn't all your fault. He isn't God and this wasn't immaculate conception. I'm sure she's feeling the change in her life as well. What you two have done effects more people then just you. Give her some time. Explain to her your plans. Let her know the two of you have unexpectedly made yourselves parents and her a grandmother.

Answer 10

Talk to your boyfriend first,but think also at your baby too,give him for adoption if you can't raise him by yourself,if anyone will support you,go to a church and ask God,you'll see He will found a way to give an answer to you,IN ANY WAY DON'T EVEN THINK TO SPILL THE INNOCENT BLOOD OF YOUR UNBORN CHILD THROUGH AN ABORTION ESPECIALLY IN THOSE HOLIDAY'S TIMES!
NEVER FORGET,EVEN ALL AROUND YOU WILL LET YOU DOWN,GOD SHALL NEVER GIVE UP ON YOU,HE REALLY LOVES YOU NO MATTER WHAT.