Out 2 yrs together has been difficult as finances have been tough. She is 9 yrs younger that I but the last 6 weekends she has went out with her girlfriend and 2x did not come home or call. I questioned what was going on the 2nd time and she said we need time apart. We live together and I moved out so she can think about what she wants. She keeps telling me how in love she is but our communication over the last year has been rough with us both yelling at each other at times. I think the break is a way of her to finally tell me off even after I apoligized for the rough times. I've had some time to think it all over but she wants 2 weeks to think on it and decide if we are meant to be. Should I take this as the end of our relationship?
2006-12-18 02:41:02 · 16 answers · asked by chris l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have been together 2yrs. I'm 34 and she is 25. For the last 6 months communication has been rough. We live together but both hate our jobs and the city we live in. She has a single friend that always wants her to go out for girls night and in the last 6 weeks they have went out every friday and she has not come home or called 2x. After the last time I yelled of course and she thought we should split for 2 weeks. I told her I'm good either way on this but she wants time to think it over. Any thoughts on this? Yesterday was the day it started and she has sent me 2 text messages saying I LOVE YOU which I have not replied.
2006-12-18 05:03:05 · update #1
Sorry to break it, but I'd put money down that she has already found your replacement.
2006-12-18 02:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd take it as the end. It sounds like she doesn't want to be tied down to someone, that is why she's been going out so much with her friends. She wants to be young again and live the single life. She may be looking for someone else or already have someone else. I can't see how a set 2 weeks is good....I think she is messing around personally and wants to see how things will work with the new guy before she sets you completely free.
2006-12-18 03:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me....I am a 27 yr old girl and I have done that to a guy before. Give her her 2 weeks and DONT CALL HER...during the 2 weeks. She will miss you and see what it is like without you. It may drive her nuts. That is usually what happens. Don't be up her a@$ the whole time or she'll get annoyed and sick of you. Just let it happen. TRUST me. 9/10 times it works. Ive done it more than once. So listen to me from the girls side!!
2006-12-18 03:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age, 6 years can be huge age difference. If she is just becoming a young adult this is a very critical time for her. If you were her first real relationship she may be ready to try someting else. Sounds like she enjoyed herself with her friends and wants to indulge in that for awhile. Take this time for yourself. Examine where you both are in life and if you are going in the same direction. Perhaps this relationship has run it's course. Give her the time and make sure you us it wisely as well.
2006-12-18 03:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by chai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not think negative. It is obvious that it is much love here and like EVERY relationship love=pain sometimes. Do give her her time but realize that maybe you both are upset right now about some things and need time to just relax. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Just make sure you remind her that you are still there and willing to move along.
2006-12-18 02:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by Teee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't really look at it as the end. If you do decide to go ahead and allow her these 2 weeks, just be clear to her that in that 2 weeks you may decide that you don't want to continue the relationship either. Sometimes we are all better off seperating from our realtionships. But I think that if it is over and you feel that it is over, then don't drag this on.
2006-12-18 02:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont take it as the end, let her know that u want to be with her and let her know that its whatever she watns...tell her that u guys dont have to always hang out , u guys dont always have to talk ...she is younger than you and is probably loving this freedom...dont be clingy and tell her she is totally alowed to go away for as long as she wants to have fun then say but make sure u come back to me because that is the whole problem of dating people of such a diff age because she is more into living a young life and quite frankly being with someone that long makes you feel married and older...just give it time shake it off im sure if she isn't lieing to u she loves you and she will be back in your arms ...just let her know she can go have fun whenever and maybe emply that ud love to go do that "have fun thing" with her sometime(if u guys dont already do so)....good luck...
2006-12-18 02:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants to fool around and feel ok about it by asking for a temporary separation. This way if things don't work out with her other fling(s) she always has you to fall back on. Don't be a fool, even if she comes crawling back don't take her back, it will only show her that she can always step on you whenever she wants to.
2006-12-18 02:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow that is rough. dont think on it to much untill she comes to you and talks to you about it. dont assume what will happen, but then again be ready for anything. i hope everything works out.
2006-12-18 02:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by Katiie Babiie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on with it. But say and do this according = Hug her tightly and say this in a weary tone " all I need for now is this".
2006-12-18 02:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by cinabolic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋