How does one learn to trust again? how do you learn to trust people you really cant shut out of ur life? how do you trust people when they have already hurt you? i need to know cause the less i trust the more people get angry at me and i feel like im just miserable now....i dont get it...people hurt me,i get mad i lose trust i try to not be too mean to the people that have hurt me yet now they turrn around mad at me cause i cant trust them......they do bad and at the end they still end up mad at me i dont get it! i need help. EX....mom husband dad sister
2006-12-18 02:40:24 · 3 answers · asked by daisygurl326 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
husband:cheated on me
mom: sets me up for failure
dad: abused me till i was 17 (physically he beat me)
and my sister well shes always being mean always has something bad to say about me even though i try my hardest to be ok
2006-12-18 02:43:10 · update #1
I think that's easier than it sounds.
The first thing you need to do is to take responsibility for yourself.
Your mom set you up for failure? Give me a break. Wherever you failed, look a little harder. Odds are you could have done more to help yourself.
Husband cheated on you? Did you really think he was a good choice, or was he a low life, and you just thought you would get a pass?
Life is all about choices. Maybe as a child, your choices were limited. You can't choose your family, but you can choose how you will go forward from this point on. As an adult, live your life like you expect to be treated with honestly, and give people honesty in return. That may sound sappy, but treat people the way you wish to be treated, and stay away from people who can't give that in return.
2006-12-18 02:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Linea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and only you can decide when you are ready to forgive these people you have hurt you. Forgiveness is as much for the forgiver as it is for the person being forgiven. When you feel you can forgive them (not forget) then you can begin to heal because they will no longer have control over your emotions. learning to trust again takes time and effort on the part of those who have hurt you. Actions speak louder than words, so you have to be the judge of that. I wish you well.
2006-12-18 13:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is realize that you don't need these people. Cut off all comunications with them and move on with your life.
You live in a world with 6+ billion people. Cutting out a half-dozen that treats you poorly won't compromise the multitude of relationships you will be opening yourself up to create.
2006-12-18 10:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋