What if a married guy told me he liked me more than a friend? I like him too but im affraid that we would get into trouble. What do I do? I want to move on.
2006-12-18 02:40:11 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your instincts are telling you to seek advice and not to get involved. Follow them. Once in a while, people fall out of love, are still married, get into an extra-marital relationship, fall in love with that new person and live happy lives together forever and ever.
Most times, the person, man or woman, does not leave their spouse and the girlfriend or boyfreind is strung along for a long time until they are fed up and leave. Or just as bad, you are found out, again most times and you still end up alone.
If he would have an affair with you, he most likely would later have an affair behind your back. Not absolutely, but rarely does the scenario I gave you at first work out.
If he wants a relationship with you, tell him to leave her, FIRST, file for divorce (it wouldn't hurt to see the papers), then see him.
If he cares for you that much, might work, if he is hesitant and won't, look for someone else. Finally, the golden rule is great here, you wouldn't want him to do this to you if the roles were reversed, do you really want to live with him doing this to his current wife.
Best of luck to you!
2006-12-18 03:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong in liking a married man. It's whether or not you act on those feelings. You do not want anything to do with a married man.They're not worth it. It can and will get you in trouble. If you decide to be with a married man then you could cause his wife alot of problems.Just stay away from this married man and let him know it.It could still be hard keeping him away from you but you have to do it.
2006-12-18 02:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on....
there are gazillions of single guys who could like you....
if he really liked you he would divorce and not ask you to be in a relationship to where you would have to share him with his wife.
remember he married some poor women and promised love and fedelity....ask you can now see...he is NOT a MAN that can keep his word or his promises....
that wife that sits at home waiting for him while he is out romancing other naive women....well that could be YOU in the future....so do the right thing and don't let him wooo you with his words....tell him if he wants to impress you....he should turn away and go keep his promise and show you that he is a man of his word....
also...let's say he gives u this sobbing story that his wife is a horrible person and that he is no longer in love with her.....(which is usually what they always say to get you to sympathize and fall for them) That is when you say....Well if it is that bad then divorce and leave....then come look for me! My bets are that he will not come looking for you....he'll probably go on to the next naive woman.
2006-12-18 02:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Pinkie_&_the_Brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving on is the best thing.
i would avoid gettign attatched to married men.
think about what if you were married and your husband was telling some girl that he liked her as more than a frined.
i would be shattered if i was his wife and i found out.
especially if i loved him.
if not from keeping you out of trouble.
spare his wife the truma.
and explain to the guy that he cant do that.
he made a commitment to stay faithful to his wife.
and thats what he should do.
good luck.
i hope everything turns out right.
i'll pray for you.
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2006-12-18 02:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sterlinggg. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is no law that states you would get into any real trouble, but I don't think that it is healthy to get involved with a married man. Now, if and when he becomes seperated with his current wife, then you can act on those feelings. Someone always gets hurt when their is cheating invloved. It is usually the wife and the mistress.
2006-12-18 02:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, leave that man alone. He is scum of the earth for attempting to cheat on his wife. Do it for the respect of marriage not because you are afraid of getting in trouble. One day you may be the wife. By the way, he might have a crazy wife. Even worse, he might have a FED UP wife. You never know who is watching. Don't settle for sloppy seconds.
2006-12-18 03:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Gina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u should move on before it get worse because there is so much that could go wrong with that relationship first of all it is founded on a lie because i doubt he told his wife and 2nd he is not going to b able to give u all that u want and deserve right now!
so u'r best bet is to leave!!!
2006-12-20 01:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont mess with other peoples men especially if they are married move on and make sure he know you dont want to mess around like that because if yall got together you would have to do alot of sneaking because hes married and most likely they live together so its to much trouble just find someone single
2006-12-18 02:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you as more than a friend, because he wants sex. Just remember, if he could cheat on her, he is without honor and will eventually tire of you the same way.
Tell him that you don't do married men and stay away from him.
Odds are that even he will respect you for it, and more importantly, you will respect yourself.
2006-12-18 02:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by Linea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy... Don't go in that direction. You'll be in a huge mess of disorder and TROUBLE. Stick to the single men. Tell him to stick with his wife if he wants to stay out of trouble as well.
2006-12-18 02:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by JU510 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋