My mother get's really depressed around the holidays, especially this year, due to the fact that shes lost her mother, father, and recently her sister, she doesn't feel like even decorating the house like she used to. I just don't know what to tell her, or how i can help her..
Any suggestions?
2006-12-18 02:38:57 · 13 answers · asked by Sarcasm is Beauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The Christmas season is one of natural depression for many adults for many reasons. I will not bore you with the details of their its cause but suffice it to say that you should be concentrating less on using the holidays to bring her out of her depression.
Depression, when not chronic or severe, has its own natural process of elimination. Let her wallow in her sorrow for as long as she needs to. Try consoling her instead of creating more pressure by insisting 'tis the season to be jolly'. Decorate the house yourself and let her see, through your actions, that life continues despite the tragedies that occur out of our control.
Put yourself in her shoes! Love, tenderness, understanding and support go much further than what popularly is believed to help in situations like this.
God bless!
2006-12-18 02:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After my Father in Law passed away my Mother iin Law was the same way during the holidays. My wife went over and decorated the house for her to try to cheer her up. We ended up having Christmas at the Nephews house that year because it was just too much emotionally for the MIL. There's not alot you can do other than just be there for her and let her talk when she needs to. Try to get her out of the house and around some fun things. Don't expect too much from her though. Only time will make the hurt lessen and the heart lighten eventually.
2006-12-18 05:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attempt to engage the involved character in some lightsome conversation. Chorus from asking the reason on the very ; if the involved character is a dear one, may come up with the motive voluntarily if she or he has to encounter with a new quandary If the difficulty is new and critical, empathize with the character and delve into the rationale of the problem and take a look at to view it at extraordinary angles to come up with new solutions a little bit sympathy would help in soothing however hold away from an overdose of sympathy as it could push the character additional into the concern delaying the answer for it. If the character is in an extraordinarily depressed mood let him or her comprehend that issues are common and the satisfactory approach is to take a look at to avert them or resolve them, as there is no factor in crying over spilt milk. But when the purpose is an current one try tempting the character for an time out or shopping, a walk, dinner, film or a cafi. Otherwise you would shock him or her with a small reward If the character is brooding over mere trivialities one could pull the opposite's legs without hurting the opposite's feelings You could also indulge in self raillery in a humorous means about certainly one of your problems to ease the tension are trying introducing a delicate humor within the dialog.
2016-08-10 02:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by jensen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just offer to be there and ask if anything might interest her. Sometimes people choose to take trips at that time of year to get a different tradition going. Whatever you do, don't keep pushing and getting too aggressive about "helping," since you might irritate her. Get her some good books - humor, inspirational, or about any hobbies she enjoys. Maybe she can get together with you and make some crafts, cookies, or something to stay busy. Best wishes.
2006-12-18 03:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has lost the most precious loved ones in her life.
This time of the year is overwhelming for her.
She does not have the mental or physical energy to participate in this joyous occasion that she did in the past.
She is still in mourning and she has to take things one day at a time to deal with her grief.
Tell her that you would like to decorate the house and if she is in favor of that.
Start baking cookies and ask for her help.
Make reservations at a nice restaurant for Christmas Day if she is not in the mood for Cooking or have it catered.
Try to do something she likes to do and do it with her.
Be yourself, but respect her wishes if she just wants to pass Christmas this year.
Just being there for her, is the Best Gift you can give to her.
Warm Wishes to you and your Mom this Holiday Season and
dont forget to take care of yourself too.
2006-12-18 03:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can "lightly" decorate the house for her and play a nice Christmas CD while doing it. If she does not want to go out to eat that day, order in. If she feels like talking, just listen. Tell her that you love her and hope that she will be feeling better. Don't be afraid to visit.
2006-12-18 02:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't "cheer someone up" when they have all those death reminders at a time of year where every media outlet is showing pictures of warm fuzzy family scenes. Keep the TV off, try and get her to focus on creating good memories with the family still with her and encourage her to talk about some of the good times with her family. It might be sad, but it also might be good for her to talk about a tradition her mom had and why it was so special.
2006-12-18 02:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 11:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although when people are depressed they don't want to go out, you should insist because it really helps to go for a walk or do something outside the house. Rather than traditional things, it may help to do something "new" that doesn't remind her of anyone and allows her to escape by concentrating on a fun task or adventure.
2006-12-18 02:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by Professor Maddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it a holiday for the two of you. Even though some of your family members have passed on, you two should still carry on memories with just the two of you. Take her to midnight mass, or out to lunch, or make cookies together......be a family, and be happy to still be together! good luck
2006-12-18 02:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jackeeeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋