I have found a perfect guy, hes sweet, genuine, and loves me with all of his heart! But it seems that after i have found the perfect guy i run away. I dont want to lose something that i love but i still run why do i do this?
2006-12-18 02:33:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unconsciously, you are probably afraid of a commitment. I had the same situation. I loved this guy to death, but our relationship ran out of love because I was not ready to be with him on that level. He was talking about marrying me and kids and all. He is19 and I am 17; Just not ready for all that. We are still really good friends right now though. If this is the case for you, I think the best thing would be is to put him on hold, you know? Tell him, ''Hey, I love you. I want to be with you, but right now I just want to live life. I am not ready for a committed relationship right now." Now I am warning you. He might not be that understanding or he just might be. So, would you rather take the chance of having him put on hold until you get yourself organized or loose a great person because you are not committed nor ready for him? Talk to him.
2006-12-18 02:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you've been hurt many times in the past and you are running away to protect yourself from possibly getting hurt again. You say you found the perfect guy....you are probably thinking things are too good to be true, that something sometime will happen to change that and you'll end up hurt even more. You have to fight yourself to not run away....follow your heart not your head...keep reminding yourself that this is the guy you've been waiting for!!
2006-12-18 02:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
has anything happened to you in the past where you got something you really wanted and then it got yanked out from under you? if so thats probably why you do this. your scared that as soon as you find the perfect guy he'll leave you..you cant always run away from things..take a chance with the guys u meet..you need to trust yourself ant the guy your with
2006-12-18 02:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Micelle Rye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have been hurt before you are afraid of it again, so instead of being hurt you walk away. You need to start to live everyone gets hurt that's how you end up with the right person in the end. Let your guard down a little and give him a chance.
2006-12-18 02:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, no one is perfect.
Now as to your problem. You can't believe the guy is real. You're looking for him to mess up, and since he hasn't, you're going to find a way to mess things up yourself.
You say you've done this before? Good men are supposedly hard to find. You're throwing them away.
Why don't' you just make a decision to enjoy someone for who they are. Stop worrying about what might go wrong. It's okay to be scared, but you have to just enjoy the time you have with the person. You have to make a choice to do that though. You have to give yourself a chance.
2006-12-18 02:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're afraid of commitment.
like you think somewhere deep within your mind that you shouldn't be happy.
you want to be happy, but somehow you feel you aren't deserving of such a great guy [which is not true. you deserve him.]
i guess that part comes from personal experience.
there's a logic and a feeling part of the mind.
and sometimes they clash.
i think this happens with everyone.
i know it happens to me.
i would explain to your perfect guy your feelings and let him know exactly what you're feeling.
maybe he can help you through this and he can help you find how to stay where you belong..
with him
good luck :]
2006-12-18 02:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sterlinggg. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of like giving a piece of yourself to someone else, or putting your happiness into someone elses hands. It is scary. You may have been hurt in the past and don't want to be hurt again. Understandable.
Talk to someone about it. Maybe you can get to the root of the problem - something in your past that has made you feel this way.
2006-12-18 02:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by VirtualElvis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not ready for a permanent relationship, you're looking for some more fun and exploration before you settle in on your perfect match.
Don't fret, have fun and don't settle down until you are ready for the commitment.
2006-12-18 02:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by walkinandrockin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds real, doesnt play games, and its not as exciting and means more commitment. If you were ready for a real relationship and commitment, youd be less likey to run
2006-12-18 02:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by bluestar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not running away from this perfect guy, you are running away from yourself. Seek counseling.
2006-12-18 02:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋