- - Need some Advice !! Pleaseeee - -?

Question

im in 10 grade and i need some advice please, i like this girl a lot and shes in my grade also, i think were good friends and i want to ask her to hang out with me this weekend like go to the mall or see a movie....so i was thinking of asking her either today cause i see her in 1period or ask her tomorow...

and ive asked her before if she would like to hangout with me last weekend but she said she has her b-day party and had to babysit...and shes done this another time so i dont know if shes just making excuses but i really like her so i wanted to ask 1 more time

but this is what i want to say to her when i ask her "i know you were busy last weekend but i was did you want to hang out this weekend like go to the mall or something"...and if she says something like she has to do something again i would say..."you know if you dont really want to do something just tell me the truth"

i just wanted to know if thats ok to say to her, or anything i should say to her

thank you

if you could please answer soon i would appreciate it

thanx

Answer 1

Thats good I guess but it's better to let her decide wherre to go perhapes she would prefer going for a walk instead or for a drink. I think you should tell her first thing if she has plans for next sat and if she says no tell her perhapes she would hang out with you and if she tells you that she has plans tell her ' cause I was going to ask u to hang out with me' and see what she answers but try and keep it as a friendship for now don't rush. Goodluck xx

Answer 2

I don't like that approach.

You've asked her twice right? Sure you should ask her a third time, but don't bring up the excuses. It might just be her polite way of letting you know she is not interested, or she might really be busy. In either case, calling her on it would only offend her.

If she says no, then say something nice and walk away. It preserves both your dignity. If that's not enough for you, then ask her when she would be available.

Above all else, don't lose hope, and don't lose face. Keep both of those and things will work out right!

P.S. Please take more care in your typing.

Answer 3

I think it's a good idea to ask her for a direct answer...if you're prepared to accept that answer. If she says that she doesn't want you to get "the wrong idea", are your feelings going to be terribly hurt?

You may want to lay it out as to whether or not you are actually interested in her as more than a "good friend". If you don't have any interest in her romantically, say so. If you do, come right iut and tell her that you want to take her to a movie... like a date. Being ambiguous about your intentions can may the whole thing harder on both of you, and being straight forward is the only way you are going to know for sure how she feels,

Answer 4

well what you said is perfectly fine - just DONT do that follow-up question. more than likely she will lie if she WAS making excuses. instead, say something like "hey, i was planning on going to the movies this weekend and I wanted to know if you would want to go with me.." then you could PLAYFULLY say "ill buy you some nachooos heh" and if she still says shes busy then say "well whenever you're free you know where i am" <<

Answer 5

You might be in for another let down with the fact that this weekend is christmas weekend...ie family get togethers and such that would keep her from being able to do stuff. Although it wont hurt to ask...if she does give you an excuse follow up the excuse with the question...Well when would you like to hang out since your busy this weekend?...that should eliviate your problem...b/c she will be forced to give you a date or be straight up with you and quit making excuses.

Good luck though!

Answer 6

It's cool that you even have the courage to ask her out a third time. Props to you. Go ahead, ask her again (not around other people), if she makes an excuse, i would do exactly what you did, have her be straight up. or you could just take a hint (she doesnt want to go out w/ you, after 3 x, I'd call it quits). If she says yes, then great.

Answer 7

I think you need to give her more notice. Why don't you ask her today if she would hang out with you one day next week. She probably does make plans in advance. Other than that, I think you have a good plan, and that you should do what you've explained here. Good luck!

Answer 8

Im in high school now but 2 years ago i was in middle school and ya there are hangs and the 8th graders think they are all that and ya some of them may pick on you i aint going to lie to you, but if you put on a tuff face and act like your not going to take any bull from anyone they'll leave you alone!

Answer 9

I think like you said if you get another excuse maybe she does not want to hang out or maybe she is too shy or nervous or better yet she may not be allowed to date. Just go for it, if it does not work out thats the sooner you can move on

Answer 10

First of all, how often do you talk to this girl? Is it just when you are in classes together or do you talk to her outside the class rooms as well? Many girls (in my opinion) whom associates with numerous of boys including yourself outside classes are usually very independent. They like the image of being "one of the popular girls". Sometimes a girl would try to keep themselves available so that boys would want to get talk to them and try to get involve with them. It's only the image thing. You may hurt this girls feelings if you say""you know if you dont really want to do something just tell me the truth""because then you are accusing her of lying then that would upset her. In response, just tell her that you would be available if decide to change her mind, but dont act as if you are angry with her. That's my opinion anyways, Good luck man.