Are there things I can do to stop my spouse from emotionally and mentally abusing me?

Answer 1

It's all about you and your self esteem. People with high self esteems are far less likely to be in that circumstance. Unless he is able to acknowledge what he's doing and get help then there is no way things will change unless you do. Be strong and imagine it was your daughter being treated the way he treats you. Treat yourself the way you would want your daughter to act. Do yourself up to look great, start yoga or something like self defense courses and build your confidence until you have the strength to leave him. You owe it to the little girl inside you. Good luck!

Answer 2

I thought there were things I could do to fix my ex's emotional and mental abuse problems. I learned the hard way over 5 years of mental and emotional abuse that you can't change them. I think that they honestly believe if they mentally/emotionally abuse you enough that they can mold you into whatever they want you to be. And you will change things in your life so that your spouse will not abuse you. Don't try to fix something you didn't break in the first place. The best thing to do is walk away from the relationship. Now. Don't wait. It does NOT get better. Your life will get better when you leave and you will realize just how much you have changed your life to make your spouse happy. How about you make you happy? Good Luck!

PS--Don't go back when your spouse comes crawling back begging you for forgiveness. If you go back, he's just showing more control over you which leads to more emotional and physical abuse.

Answer 3

I can tihnk of 1 major thing. How about leaving him. If he abuses you in any kind of way, he is showing that he does not love you. You are way more valuable than he is noticing. you are letting him take you for granted. You may be saying that you can't leave him because you love him. You don't love him you feel like you will be lonely without him, you won't be. You can do way better than him. There is someone out there willing to treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. All you have to do is get him out of your life and find someone else. An abusive relationship is not worth staying in. He probably has brainwashed you into thinking that you are noy beautiful but I guarantee that you are. He should be emotionally and mentally helping you. He should be supportive and willing to treat you like a human being. You shouldn't be belittled by any man. Your worth is priceless.

Answer 4

A spouse who's violent, will often use the term provocation to justify abuse.... A spouse claiming innocence might be fibbing. Unless you have an honest assessment of the situation, there is no real solution.. More often then not a situation like this spirals downward towards grievous bodily harm..... There's danger to the victim so beware... Do not publicize openly about what you asked....... Shelters full of Women and children beaten by their Spouses... Of men beaten by their women we never get to gear, and is just as much a part of someones day to day life.....

Answer 5

Once they start abuse you and let them get away with it, they'll think it's okay and continue. I walked out on an abusive wife 10 years ago. She was not only emotionally and mentally abusive, but she eventually became physically abusive, and that could happen to you. Now that I look back, I realize I should have left years sooner.

Answer 6

Having been there, the first thing I would suggest is to get YOURSELF into counseling. Second, tell him/her that you will no longer stand for it and that if he/she continues you will either pack his/her bags and they will leave or you will be leaving. Third, follow through with number two!!!

I was in your same position once. I thought that I wouldn't find anyone that would love me or take care of me, but what I didn't realize was that person was there all along. It was ME!!! You have to take care of yourself first!!! Allowing someone to do this TO you is not taking care of yourself. There are all sorts of support systems out there if you don't have the financial means to leave, there are also support groups if you don't have the EMOTIONAL means to leave.

Try to find a counselor and they can also help you greatly. You CANNOT change him, only HE can do that. You can ask him to go to counseling with you to work on communication, but only if he will do that. But if he is doing what you say, I'm not sure he will. But, like people say, it doesn't hurt to try.

Good luck!!

Answer 7

If he doesn't think anything is wrong with him and won't get help - leave. Easier said than done, but in this world we all live in is hard enough much less have a spouse like that. Been there , done that! It's not going to get any better if he won't go seek help. It's your life and you must take control of it. It is up to you to save yourself, for your sanity. Nothing is worth putting up with this type of abuse. It will wear you down faster than ever. Get help for yourself, if he won't go.

Answer 8

I have a suggestion, that you carefully read the following online articles:

Help for Battered Women! :
- "Maybe This Time He'll Change"
- Why Do Men Batter Women?
- Help for Battered Women
- Machismo--A Global Problem
- Correcting Misconceptions
- "Sometimes I Think I Am Dreaming!" < a successful outcome
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20011108/article_01.htm

Answer 9

Emotional. Mental. Psychological. Verbal. Abuse is abuse, and no one, I repeat, no one should have to put up with it. The only thing you can do is pack up all your things and get out of there. Afterwards, you might want to pursue legal action against the bloke who treated you so badly. Just make sure you have sufficient concrete evidence to use at the trial. Good Luck.

Answer 10

I just got out of a relationship like this... I was with the person for four years and we would break up and get back together every year. It was horrible... I even took them to the doctor and they gave them meds... but after all this I finally realized nothing would change and cut my losses... was very hard for the first 3 months but now I am happier than I have ever been...