we were together for 11 1/2 months...i still dont know why he broke up with me...its been like 3 or 4 months since he has...he called me saturday...and now all i can do is think about him...all the memories we made..i dont want to remember..i just want to forget and i cant..what do i do??...its so hard its like he broke up with me all over again...
2006-12-18 02:16:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know he doesnt want me back..he has a gf...he called to see if i changed his voicemail pass..and i didnt...and he had promised that no matter what happened between us he would always be there for me...he would help in ne way he could...ive need him so much here lately...but he only calls to see if i changed his voicemail pass...wtf!?!?
2006-12-18 02:21:25 · update #1
that's good that u feel strong enough to move on. date other people and do not let him in your heart again
2006-12-18 02:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by ~YuM yUm LoLipOpS~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is find out why he broke up with you. Based on that answer you'll know what to say when you get the answer to the next question, which is why is he getting back in touch with you? Could be he needed space & time, or he might have thought he found someone better and got dumped on himself. The main thing is, make sure he is sincere, and the reason for the break up was proper, before you jump back into it. If so, great, if not, experience has taught me the best thing to do is move on. It's hard to do, but it is possible.
2006-12-18 10:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by been there 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly do not know why he broke it off with you then you need to ask him straight up! This way you can put closure to this relationship and move on. When I say this, I mean move forward either with him or without him. Since he's called, you don't have all the right tools to do this without knowing the answers. Be prepared to hear what you did wrong, believe me - it's OK to admit that it took 2 to make it & 2 to break it! Either way, you'll be a better person knowing the truth to the reasons why...
2006-12-18 10:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are still having a very rough time dealing with it. I would say that you should spend as much time with friends or people who are supportive as you can, and whatever you do, don't take anymore of his calls. It sounds like all it does is open old wounds and you need as much time to heal as the relationship was long. Don't worry, you will find someone who deserves you and make new memories.
2006-12-18 10:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know right now you don't think so, but eventually you will be able to have hour-long conversations with him and not feel hurt when you hang up the phone. i went through this with an ex of mine. i thought we were going to be together forever. we had talked about getting married and everything. he moved away for school and broke off our engagement over the phone 3 months later. for the first 6 months i wouldnt even answer the phone when he called and i still cried every time. but now, 2 years later, we are best friends. we talk almost every day, i'm still close with his family and our friends., and every time he comes in town we hang out. it will get easier with time. keep your head up :)
2006-12-18 10:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep reminding yourself about how he treated you....he is as good as your last memory of him, which if i am not mistaken, would be him breaking up with you.
I am in the same situation and although I still care for him (no point in me lying to myself) I am determined never to go back.
It is hard I know...be strong, pray and move on...keep busy, very busy. Fill your life with friends and new people if you can. Please try not to take his calls.
When my ex calls i have to physically restrain myself from answering the mobile. Cause I know he is calling to spin a load of crap and it is easy to get sucked in again...good luck
2006-12-18 10:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by JadeNicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont answer the phone next time. i know from personal experience that each time u talk to him it is like tearing the wound open again. just move on and find some hobbies til someone else comes along. dont look back or u might just repeat the last yr or so....
2006-12-18 10:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by jenivive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i know how it is. You want him to wrap u up in those manyly arms of his and whisper sweet nothings in your ear. If you broke up on bad terms then it would be best not to go back that route, but if there is still a chance to rekindle the old flame I say go for it.
2006-12-18 10:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by BlkBeauty24 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well whatever you do dont call him. If hes started contacting you then theres a chance that he misses you and wants you back. Wait for him to get in touch again and see what he says then.
2006-12-18 10:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i know how that feels.
:'[
it took me 9 months to get over him.
i was like yourself and every time he'd talk to me again I'd relapse into memories.
it was horrible.
i just couldn't stop liking him.
finally i got over him when i stopped talking to him and answering his texts.
the distance combined with trying to stay busy with friends and meeting new guys finally payed off.
i hope that helped.
good luck :]
2006-12-18 10:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by Sterlinggg. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋