Why on earth should kids only have their dad's surname, in this day and age?
The mother is invariably the one who carries the child for 9 months, goes through the birth process, and after that she is frequently the one who does most of the hard work!
2006-12-18 01:51:38 · 11 answers · asked by Wildamberhoney 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks for your responses. I guess it shows that we all have different perspectives on the same issue. For the record, I wasn't trying to suggest that the mother is always mainly responsible for the kids upbringing, or that most men aren't good fathers!
2006-12-18 02:03:49 · update #1
halifax78, I wasn't talking about myself personally, so don't assume things so quickly! I take my hat off to you and your partner for taking equal responsibility - that's exactly how it SHOULD be!
2006-12-18 02:06:04 · update #2
*Yawns loudly at Bridezilla's fascinating, intellectual, well researched answer.*
Come on, kiddo - surely you can do better than that? I award you a grade if D-. Must try harder.
2006-12-18 02:42:50 · update #3
I will. I'm probably going to end up keeping my own last name bc that's who I am and part of the reason I'm so proud of my last name is bc it's my father's last name. It's something I share with him. It's not about equality or who does the work. Children have that awesome connection with their mothers for 9 months when they share everything. Giving a child the father's last name is like establishing another stong bond.
2006-12-18 01:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My partner and i are not married but our son still has his surname and to be quite honest if we were to ever split up i wouldnt try to get it changed because at the end of the day he is still his dad and always will be unless of course i were to marry and then i would CONSIDER it.
2006-12-18 08:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by da_momma24 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depending on your culture...
I would not be able to as my culture says that the child keeps your last name until the man marries you....at which point you would then have to change their surnames when yours changes as well....
but i think if you are torn about it, how about givin them both surnames?
2006-12-18 04:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Chariddie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I did, and now we've broken up I suspect it wasn't such a good idea.
2006-12-18 01:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as I am married and changed my surname then yes our children will bear their fathers (and now mine!) surname.
2006-12-18 01:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by ehc11 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
my sons dad left them when they were young he doesn,t know them hardly see,s them stopped ,paying money so he could have a fancy wedding,
really why should my sons have his name
I wanted to change their name he wouldn,t let me thats the law
2006-12-18 03:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by miss smidgey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Single mom of 2..raised them both myself..their sperm donars had the chance to step up and be their Dad....your key word is "FATHER"....THAT'S WHY THE BOTH OF MINE CARRIES MY NAME....everyone has got choices.
they made theirs.
2006-12-18 02:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my daughter has my surname, partly cos she is my baby too, partly becuase my partner has a crap one and mostly because we inten to marry, families ought to, wherever possible all have the same surname
2006-12-18 01:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yeah but depends on surname as i was glad to get rid of mine so i did not want to pass it on to my child.
2006-12-18 01:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should pick the wrong guy to be your babies father. My husband is equally involved with raising of our children, everything from diapering to nighttime feedings.
Which is why I used "maybe".
2006-12-18 02:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by halifax78 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋