basically my girlfriend is absolutely beautiful (genuinely, not just cause im goin out with her!) so i find it hard sometimes(a lot of the time) when i see her talkin to guys or if i found out she was txtin another guy (a friend supposedly) or if she went out without me i would be feeling kinda sick thinkin about all the lads undoubtedly tryin her.(ive been told by friends about loads of lads comin on to her) how do i explain to her without her gettin mad how i feel? i know im a jealous guy! but wat do i do?
2006-12-18 01:43:31 · 8 answers · asked by therammid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like you think you don't deserve your girlfriend or you think that she may give in on temptation. Has she ever given you a reason to distrust her? If your relationship is strong you shouldn't have to worry. Women don't usually like it when men are coming on to them at a bar...we know they are doing it to everyone and are just looking for a piece! Sure the compliment/attention might make us feel good BUT when we have someone at home, it doesn't go further than a little flirting. I'd just explain to her how jealous you get, but tell her it's because you think she's so beautiful (and other qualities you like/love about her) and you never imagined having someone like her in your life so the thought of losing her tears you up inside. Let her know its not that you don't trust her it's just that you are a little insecure yourself and you just want to fulfill her every need/want in a man. I don't think that would make her mad at all!!!
2006-12-18 01:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know you're a jealous guy? I assume she does know. First of all, just explain to her your feelings. But don't approach the conversation like she's doing something bad. Ask for her help in dealing with the jealousy. She may appreciate that you want to get rid of this jealous feeling, and by including her, she'll know that you're serious about your relationship, and that you want to do what you can to work on your jealousy. The biggest part of dealing with jealousy is learning to trust. That is very important. Sometimes you just have to set aside the feeling of jealousy and just trust. Show her that you trust her, and ask her to help you defeat your jealousy.
2006-12-18 01:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by Enceladus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her how you feel and that you need reassurance that she's not going to cheat on you, and hope that out of consideration for you, she tones down the socializing. Don't TELL her to do anything. She obviously likes her freedom, so don't stifle her or make her do what you want. The problem is, she was probably this social before she met you, so don't expect her to stop being that way.
Also, have you also set the boundaries of the relationship? Are you guys "going steady" or "exclusive"? Does she know this?
2006-12-18 01:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over your jealousy, it is a sickness and needs to be cured.
If you truly care for your gf and think she truly cares for you, then trust her. Life is full of opportunities for everyone that is why trust is so important in relationships. People who cannot trust go crazy with jealousy and cannot maintain a healthy relationship.
You should be flattered that other guys come on to her but she has chosen to be with you.
2006-12-18 01:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Alexandra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless she's given you a reason to worry about other guys, you should give the benefit of the doubt and trust her. Your jealousy will just be a turn off and drive her away.
2006-12-18 01:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that her talking(or texting) so many guys makes you feel as if those guys is not right because she is taken and you're afraid of losing her to all these guys. it's one thing to be friendly to a couple of guys;it's another to talk to every guy that pays attention to her it's not fair to you. she'll get the attention from you only because she's in a relationship. should she say it's just talking remind her the only attention she needs is yours. she's being vain.
2006-12-18 02:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by christina p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, that you are a jealous guy. Why play games? If she knows the truth, maybe she will be more able to be herself.
2006-12-18 01:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Marilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest to her! it's normal to be jealous because you really love her but don't be possessive because my ex was really possessive and it was a complete turn off..address this issue to her but keep your tone light..don't try to control her life and have faith and trust in her..i'm sure she'll understand..=)
2006-12-18 01:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋