i hv been dating this guy for 5yrs..hez in a diff country now..the prob is hez juz too busy always..and when he is free and whn we chat..our conversations are so casual...he says i love you..but i somehow dont feel it..i think we are growing apart...he doesnt want to talk about it...if i talk anything about the relationship..he says im nagging and making his life a hell..
he told me right in my face that he is taking me for granted..i dont know if he really meant it..or he said that coz he is angry..?we are still hanging on to this relationship hoping thing will get better..i know he loves me..juz dont knw what to do...plz help
2006-12-18 01:36:35 · 6 answers · asked by sweetiepie123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does sound like you are moving apart. He obviously doesn't want to discuss it to make things better or maybe he's afraid of the end of the relationship. How do you feel about him? Are you holding on out of habit or are you really still in love with him? If he knows he's taking you for granted and does nothing to change it what does that say about him? Why do you allow yourself to be taken for granted? If you can answer these questions honestly you'll know what you need to do. I wish you all the best.
2006-12-18 01:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long is he going to be away for? Why don't you two take a break for a bit while he's away, date other people and think about your relationship. When he comes back, then you can decide what the two of you want to do. Five years is a long time, and it is very possible that you two are growing apart. Its normal, especially since he's now living in another country and experiencing so many wonderful things. I sincerely wish you and your boyfriend the best of luck, its hard but you will get through it.
2006-12-18 01:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Flagstones925 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you he is taking you for granted, it is time to end the relationship. There is no reason to continue a relationship that is one sided. It sounds like you are putting in all the effort and he is not even completely along for the ride.
You will do better to find someone who really cares for you and maybe even lives close by.
Take care,
Troy
2006-12-18 01:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh come on..i think you really deserve someone better than him..if he said that he is taking you for granted and right in your face, then i doubt the love he has for you is deep and true..don't hang on to this relationship which is going no where..go out there and get to know more people..i'm sure you'll be able to find someone who truly loves you and really cherishes you..
all the best!! =))
2006-12-18 01:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him and make him listen. Tell him your not "nagging, bitching, or making his life hell" Tell him he is making your life hell not wanting to talk about it. And you could also tell him you will stop bringing it up just as soon as his stubborn *** agrees to listen and talk....Agree?
2006-12-18 02:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Just here. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HATE TO SAY IT BUT IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON!
2006-12-18 01:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by patrick h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋