I met a good friend at work about a year ago we had FWB relationship but found out she was sleeping with a few other men. One of them was unavailable and had a girlfriend but I told him she was sleeping around. She cut off contact with me.
Two months later I contacted her by e-mail and phone to say I'm sorry and ask if we could be friends, I have never and would ever threaten her or call her names as I care for her too much. Now she has reported me to anti-social behaviour team for harrassment.
She has also told them that when I rang her at home I frightened the kids, which could be true but they have met me once or twice. She has also told them that we never had sex. Any advice on what to say?
2006-12-18 01:32:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should stay away from single mothers.
As far as the harassment meeting you should tell them what you told us.
How is your ring any scarier than someone else's?
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2006-12-18 01:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dave Yours Truly 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you crossed a whole bunch of lines. Firstly, sex with a coworker only works if it's a long term relationship. Secondly, as a FWB, you shouldn't have said anything to the guy she was seeing about who she was having sex with. Maybe you felt a moral obligation, but still.
As to the harassment meeting, you can say you told her boyfriend she was sleeping around, but really, how much dirt do you want to drag into the room? I'd rather stick with an apology, something like, "I'm sorry. I thought we were friends and friends look out for each other. I only did what I thought would help you, and I'm sorry if it hurt you. I won't call you or try and make any contact again." and then leave her the hell alone.
If she reacted this badly to the situation, then you need to leave her alone. She's not worth the drama.
EDIT: FWB = Friends with Benefits to those who were in the dark.
2006-12-18 01:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth.
In the meeting, confess that the two of you had a mutual FWB relationship. The truth will destroy her credibility. Go in with confidence - don't seem too nervous, and don't seem overbearingly cocky.
When you go into the meeting, don't even look at the girl, and don't interupt her when she's talking. Let her have her turn, and when it's your turn, speak calmly but with authority. She'll difinitely interupt you when you start telling the truth, and at that point (without looking at her) in an assertive voice say to her
'You've had your chance to speak, and I didn't interupt you. Now please afford me the same opportunity'
you'll win
2006-12-18 01:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mister 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave her alone before you get arrested. Any other contact from you after she's told you not to talk to her, (andshe's already reported you) IS harrassment.
2006-12-18 01:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was the HR manager I'd insist you came to an agreement to work together in peace or I'd try and get one of you transferred somewhere else.
2006-12-18 01:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the truth.
Sounds to me like she has some serious mental problems.
and stupid question....what's a FWB? lol
2006-12-18 01:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Betsy S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is FWB??
2006-12-18 01:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Curious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋