My 5 year old daughter has the bad case of the whines!!!!!!
How can I stop this annoying habit I cant take it no more any suggestions???????????????????????????
2006-12-18 01:30:25 · 15 answers · asked by Tracy P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Are there any new changes in her life that are upsetting her (new baby, more, new school, family issues)? If there are, give her some extra attention and support. Children will whine because they are ill, hungry, or tired. If they are not whining for these reasons, they will whine because they feel they are not being heard or “seen,” it feels powerful, they get attention for it, they are testing limits, or they are simply feeling frustrated. When she begins whining, get down to her level and look her in the eyes. Repeat what you hear her say. With time, she will realize that you do hear her.
My guess is that she will stop whining after you begin showing her that you “see” her, if not, it is okay if you tell her that you cannot understand her when she whines. If she begins to whine once you have told her this, pretend you don’t hear her. As soon as she stops whining, focus all of your attention on her. You may also want to video tape her when she whines and show it to her so that she can see what this behavior looks like.
Show her some positive attention by saying things like “You did that by yourself! You worked on that for a long time! You must be so proud of yourself! Look how many colors you used on your painting! You can run super fast! You’ve made such nice friends!” These phrases are great confidence builders, great ways to show attention, and great ways to help her feel powerful. Also, notice her when she is not whining. Spend some one on one time with her everyday. Read her a story, do an art project, have her help you with meals and things around the house. This will really help her to feel proud. Hope this helps you to find a little more peace!
2006-12-18 06:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son is 4 and gets whiny and cries. Usually it is a result of not enough sleep. If not, I take several steps. First of all, I won't even listen to him when he whines. I tell him that whiny kids don't get anything and when he stops and talks to me respectfully I will listen. If he continues to whine he is sent to his room until he stops. If at any point he doesn't listen or gets angry with me he loses all privileges for that night or next day. That means no TV, no video games, no computer. That really works because he loves those privileges and only gets them for brief periods each day. I make sure we talk about it and remind him why he can't play any games or watch TV. Last resort is a spank. When he yells at me or gets hysterical he gets a spank.
I always make sure he understands why he gets punished and make him repeat it to me. Most important of all is to be consistent. If you ever give in or let them whine, it becomes a habit. The only time I cut him any slack is when he is overly tired, then he usually enjoys a good hug to make him stop.
2006-12-18 02:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by Reddy492 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a 5 year old daughter also! What a handful! Just in the last few months she's became extremely whiny also! The only thing that I have found that works with her is to ignore her. I tell her that if she can't use her quiet voice to talk to me than I don't want to hear her. I also found that that works in restaurants also. I'm hoping this is just a faze and that It'll go away soon! Good Luck!
2006-12-18 01:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try distracting her when she starts to whine. That is what I did with my son. It hasn't completely stopped but it is definately a lot more bearable now than before. I also told him that bad behavior didn't get rewards so he was a big boy now and had to make choices, so now if he wants something from the store he asks me if I clean up leaves, or sweep the floor or help you with dinner he sets the table can I make money to buy what I want. Sometimes he doesn't like the chores but he does them for the money.
2006-12-18 08:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to say that it's a phase that they all go through (my 4y/o is doing it now). Try explaining to her that crying and whining about things doesn't accomplish anything. If she's whining because there's something she is having trouble doing, help her to figure out how to do it. Work with her. This helps my 4y/o and he's slowly getting out of it. Good luck!!!
2006-12-18 03:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows tht the whines are a way to control you, whine back at her, check and make sure she is ok then start ignoring her, reward her only when she stops.
2006-12-18 05:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everytime she whines you whine louder and act worser than she does she will stop and look at you like you are crazy but then she will understand that is what she looks like or if you dont want to do that get a camcorder and record her and let her watch herself on tv about how she acts that should do the trick good luck
2006-12-18 05:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get used to it. My son still has the whines and he's 16. If you're at your wits end now, just wait.
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2006-12-18 04:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋