how do you make a father help pay for his children, is it ok to threaten to stop access to his children?

Answer 1

my father never paid my mum for me and my brother. my mum took him to court and he was £21000 in arrears having to pay back half on top of our weekly allowance. he was on a suspended sentance if he didnt pay. hopefully youll have more luck though, he changed his name and said hed moved abroad to get out of paying it. threaten him with no access if you like but dont go through with it, its not fair on your kids

Answer 2

Please don't use access as a lever against him-you'll only hurt the children. (It's quite possible that he wouldn't be all that bothered by reduced access - especially if he could legitimately blame it on you.) Deal with the maintenance through the legal system and don't tie up your emotions in it, no matter how justified it may seem. Give him whatever access has been agreed and treat the two things - access and money as unrelated to each other. Don't badmouth him to the children either, because they can't do anything about it and they'll feel like they're wrong to love their father, which they can't help.Use every avenue open to you through the law/government agencies to get fair maintenance contributions and quietly keep a truthful record of all your dealings with him, including times he doesn't show up for access when he's agreed to. Don't tell anyone you're doing this - it's just in case there's a problem and he claims that you were unreasonable about access. Your children must never be made to suffer by you for having him as their dad - they had no choice. hope this helps.

Answer 3

First of all it's never ok to threaten to stop access from his children. Second, go through the court system in your state and get the child support taken out of his check weekly. It can be done. Go to family court and get the judgment for this. It doesn't cost much or anything depending on where you live. But never deny the children to their father. It only causes problems with children later. They made start hating you later.

Remember, this is a delicate situation and move on accordingly.

Answer 4

It depends very much on the divorce or separation conditions decided by the court. If the children's maintenance was not spelt out in the conditions, I'm afraid there isn't much you can do. If the court allows the father access to the children, I suggest you don't go against the court's decision. However, all is not lost! If you're facing financial difficulties in raising the children, you can re-apply to the court for maintenance. The court will re-assess your present status and decide judgement.

Answer 5

Do it the right way...go to court and that way is it a legal action and he will have to respond. Taking away the children will only be hurting your children. He is their father and like it or not he always will be and the children deserve to see him and spend time with him. Contact a lawyer and get some legal advise before you try to take it into your own hands...this will only lead to a fight and more aggravation. Please don't use your children as a weapon.

Answer 6

If the father never gives a dime for those kids, you still won't have the right to keep those children from him. No court in this country will allow that to ever happen. You need to take the father to court. You could go to jail for withholding the children from their father. Good luck and try to do this one by the book, for your kids sake. GOD bless.

Answer 7

If you threaten him with access he will probably say fine and turn his back on you all. He will think that for now thats fine because you have then given him more reason not to contribute to your needs.
So don't threaten him, don't be nasty about it but if he's not going to pay, bite you lip for now and seek advice from a solicitor.

Good Luck

Answer 8

Relationships are truly amazing; however they're rarely appreciated until they're damaged.
The emotional stress placed upon a relationship, family bonding is challenging and can be overwhelming at times...
How your Relationship with loved ones function is important, what happens once you incur heartache, how your mind, soul & body heal are all intricately related.
Therefore, it is important to understand the basic mechanism of your relationship with loved ones in order to dissolve any effects of confusion.

Keeping your children away intentionally from their father is just diabolical, their not for sale.
Therefore you should never measure his lack of financial commitment with the commitment he has with his children. Never under estimate precious time one can give, that's priceless!
It is so very simple to file for child support at your local court house. If you can not afford a lawyer go to Social Service and they will be more than happy to garnish his check.

Answer 9

You should never use your kids...but at the same time he has a legal responsibility to help support his kids! I can understand if he is physically incapable of financial support.....(My ex is getting ready for back surgery and can't work).But if he can work or is working and chooses not to support his kids....then you do have the legal right to deny him access to his kids....although you need to be careful because you don't want your kids to be hurt in the process...they need to be your #1 priority no matter what! Good luck!

Answer 10

Hey there's a great idea. Make sure you let the kids know that they are valued for their ability to draw ill gotten revenue to you. Oh, wait, nm. They'll figure that one out on their own later.

As far as reasonbly collecting, pick one of the 1500+ femi-nazi organizations in your area and they'll gladly help you collect money or get revenge(since that appears to be your motives here).