I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and half years
and i really love him but i feel like something missing sometimes
i think the main thing is for me, is that my dad left when i was younger and other familys, and i feel like he is just going to leave like the rest of them, so i feel i cant get to close, can anyone help me get over this? becuase i know if i keep having this gap between us he will move on and find someone else.
2006-12-18 01:22:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh yeah i know where your at.... more then i can put into words i know EXACTLY where your at... if you want to message me on Yahoo messanger... we can talk :)
2006-12-18 01:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by chrystal_lynn2002 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Love- that feeling you have for another person
True Love- that feeling you have reciprocated back at you.
Trouble is, how do we REALLY know if it is Love or True Love?
If this is meant to be, then fantastic... enjoy life..!!
If it is not meant to be, then is the pain worth it?
If you truly don't know (and most of us don't), what do you do?
Try this...... ENJOY LIFE anyway....
If it is True Love it will continue,
If it is just a one-way thing, it will eventually go away
What you DO NOT want to do is cause a potential True Love to walk away because THEY don't know if it's True Love.
Quit worrying about someone else and what they did to you.
Give the other person a break for once and stop placing someone else's mistakes upon that person.
I am sorry your father walked away, I'm sure he had his reasons.
Don't place that burden on your b/f... he did not cause your Dad to walk away.....
...and don't place that burden on yourself......
......... you probably had nothing to do with it either......
2006-12-18 01:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by wolf560 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are right, gap in relationship is not too healthy. talk it over with him and get to know how he feel about you and don't let the fear of him leaving bring a problem in the relationship you love. Good luck.
2006-12-18 01:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Impossible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you and probably 99 percent of people that have grown up in your generation, I don't know you but if thats all you've been through then you've got off fairly lightly. Everyone has hardships growing up, get a grip on yourself and don't blame your past for your current actions, you are your own person and you are the only one responsible for how you treat others. sorry to sound harsh but thats life.
2006-12-18 02:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you feel like this. Losing your Dad at such a young age is hard. It will bring up trust issues and self-esteem issues. My best advice is to get a professional counselor to help you get over this. I don't think it's something you can do on your own. Good luck.
2006-12-18 01:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok! here we go..me and u r the same...my parents got divorce am in a relationship for 2 and a half years and am afraid what if he leaves me??? well am ok now u know y? bc i couldnt do this to myself anymore. everyday i was wonderin what if and it made me get jealuse a lottttt and that caused a lot of problems between me and him. do i decided to stop it.because it wasnt just ruinin my relationship but also my self..i had stress and i couldnt stop wonderin..what is he doin now where is he with who..but i stop it and am ok and i saud to myself..if he didnt want to be with he was goin to leave already but he is here with me and if somethin bad will happen it will u cant avoid it...so relax and enjoy what u have in ur life now bc if u dont give what u have now all the love u feel u will regret it after..if u want us to talk more my mail is this...royal_erika@yahoo.com
2006-12-18 01:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you think is missing? sorry to answer with a question. Talk to him about how you feel but don't rush in all guns blazing, prepare what you need say to him and let him know how you are feeling - if you feel he's the one for you his anwsers may give you an indication of how he views your relationship.
Good Luck
2006-12-18 01:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by raythecat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does your boyfriend know this? Does he know that your scared that he'll leave like the rest of the people in your life? If he doesn't know this, then tell him. Tell him that your afraid to lose him, and if he tells you that that's not going to happen tell him that you need help believing that. But I would really tell your boyfriend how you feel if he doesn't already know.
2006-12-18 01:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by Missle 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Separation anxiety and issues of trust. Look it up on google. And ask your GP to send you for some counselling as this is having a major impact on your life.
2006-12-18 01:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are correct, unless you get over your insecurity issues he will definitely dump you. It is hard to deal with people in a relationship when they bring issues, perhaps you should forget about the past as there is nothing you can do to change that;instead focus on your future together because how that turns out is in both your hands.
2006-12-18 01:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by simon r 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont know how u can fix this but im the same just wanted u to know ur not alone...althought maybe you should seek therapy for your dad leaving u..that is very traumatic as a child to have to go throught
2006-12-18 01:26:53 · answer #11 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋