Nosy & Annoying Co-Worker(s)?

Question

So I have these 2 co-workers that get on my last nerves. They both have a habit of looking at my computer screen and commenting about what I'm doing. I think they should mind their business. The female has a tendency to cut people off when they're talking and talking extremely loud when doing so, so that I'm kind of forced to stop because not only is she talking while I'm talking and without really listening to what I'm saying, but she's drowning my voice out too. The guy talks even louder and likes to say "shush, let me talk" when he wants to get his point across or is on the phone. And he's a little punk b**** b/c we're both training for similar positions, but in different offices, and when we got our business cards, he looked at mine and asked why our cards didn't say the same thing. Am I just an oversensitive B****, or am I right to be annoyed? How do I let them know that the things they do annoy me without going all "angry black woman"? Should I tell them?

Answer 1

Wow! This sounds like a very uncomfortable situation. I think you can say what's on your mind firmly and politely without coming across as angry or aggressive. For instance, if either of them is looking over your shoulder at your screen, stop what you are doing, turn around to face him/her and say: "It makes me very uncomfortable to have someone looking over my shoulder. I can't work with someone doing that." When either of them cuts you off while you are trying to talk, shake your head slightly, hold out your hand, palm forward (like "stop") and say, "Excuse me. I'd like to finish what I was saying. Then I'll hear what you have to say." Do that a few times and they may get the message. Not everyone is trainable, unfortunately. If their behavior persists, try not to let it get to you too badly because you are new, and if you remain polite and professional at all times, you'll rise through the ranks and they will not. Good luck and hang in there!

Answer 2

I used to have a problem cutting people off. It was sort of the way I was raised and I didn't realize it bothered people. My boyfriend found a sensitive way to let me know that it was a little tiring - After a few interruptions, he'd get very quiet and just listen. After a while, I'd realize that he was being quiet and I'd ask if he was tired, upset, etc. He very nicely explained that it seemed that I wanted to do all the talking, so he was respecting that. I quickly realized I didn't want to be like that so I've gotten a lot better and am still working on it.

I don't know if this will help you, but maybe they will notice that you don't talk much and ask why. Or you might just try being honest and saying, "It's difficult to converse with you, because you interrupt me and talk over me a lot and it makes me feel like you don't care what I have to say."

As for the business card thing, I might just say "Our business cards are different because we're not the same person," like it's a sort of joke or something.

Answer 3

I would talk to my supervisor in this case. They're interrupting what you have to do! And those people need to learn to modulate their voices properly.

I have a similar problem with two women at the radio station. They find it perfectly fine to shout across the station and consequently, it goes over the air--even if you close the door. I know exactly how it feels.

Answer 4

end giving her a reaction. Be civil yet do no longer volunteer information and with courtesy tell her that status over you to substantiate you won her e mail is the two pointless and extra effective than slightly impolite. assure her which you verify your e mail in many situations and could respond whilst at your convenience. additionally the subsequent time she starts asking beside the point questions approximately your loved ones supply her a candy smile and ask her why she desires to understand. it isn't the politest ingredient in the international to do yet in my adventure it works nicely.

Answer 5

Oh man, I am in the same situation. In fact, it almost feels like we're working in the same office. Just hold out, be patient, hold your tongue, and perfect your dirty looks. Words spoken out loud, and in emails can be traced and heard, but only the annoying co-workers see the dirty looks.

Answer 6

tell them that you have a thing called your private space and that they need to say out of it and if they are in your business that cant be doing there work tell dont hate but talking over me i dont like it at all so when somebody in my face talking loud cutting me out i start to laugh they in their head they are wondering what your laughing at then slowly walk away that hate that and you didnt have to use those words of anger