Husband "CR" was having an affair and asked me to leave. He wanted to be with this other girl, who I'll call "T". I took our 4 yr old son and moved across the US to his mothers house.(She invited us) About 6 months later, I found out I was pregnant. "T" believes that this pregnancy was hidden from "CR" and has called my daughter "the baby that shouldn't exist" and has even questioned the paternity. I've always had a problem with my cycle and had taken home pregnancy tests which came up negative. Regardless, I don't owe her any explantions anyway.
My daughter was born 3 days ago. "CR" and "T" intend on flying out here next month to meet his daughter. I really don't want this woman around our daughter after what she has said about her. To avoid conflict. my mother-in-law does not allow "T" in our home. Besides, she doesn't care for her either. Is there anything I can do to stop "CR" from taking our daughter to see "T"?
2006-12-18 01:16:23 · 5 answers · asked by Chub-a-lubby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is the father, then he has rights too. Unfortunately, you can't stop him from letting his girlfriend see your daughter. Just make sure that he pays child support, then go through the friend of the court for visitation arrangements. Follow the schedule they set up for you, and refuse to deviate from it. However, if he's not paying his support, they won't make you enforce the visitation. Best of Luck, I know it's hard. I was once in that situation too. Just know that things do have a way of working out.
2006-12-18 01:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as T doesn't treat the baby with any disrespect and make sure it is supervised visits for a couple of months but yes T no matter how much she is denying this child if she wants to be with CR then she will have the respect that she needs to have. And if CR is a loving father then he should make sure that what ever T has to say will be under control and he needs to set T straight , Meaning that It is his child and no matter what he needs to step up and be a father to this child.
2006-12-18 09:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him that the baby is too young to leave you and if he wants to see her he needs to come to your home to do it. Make it clear that the other woman is not invited and is not welcome in your home!! He won't understand, but who cares!! I don't balme you at all for not wanting her around your child or around you.
That being said, you should probaby begin to work on the anger issues that you have. If this woman stays in his life, it is a good chance that you will have to deal with her being around your child at some point. What you are going through is difficult, but try to let go, for your child's sake. Be the better person. They will both get what they deserve, you just need to be patient!!
Best of luck to you and congratulations on the new baby!
2006-12-18 09:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.... a hearty congratulations for your new born daughter.... may god bless her with bright future.... Now coming to point...as far as ur hubby 'CR' is concerned.... u can not and should not stop him frm seeing the baby..... but at the same time you can request him that you don't want 'T' to see her.... if he understands ur sentiments, then it fine , otherwise as soon as the b***i***tch 'T' enters ur place, give her a nice kick on her butts and slam the door on their face..... I mean it and u can do it.
All the best and may god bless you.... (Pls let me know the details of that day.... u can count on me as ur friend....)
2006-12-18 09:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Santa B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on your state.But I think if he is questioning whether the baby is his he does not have rights until he establishes paternity. Then you can go through the courts and request supervised visits or whatever.
2006-12-18 09:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by space case 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋