What do you do when you dont know what to do?

Question

I dont know if i should stay with my childrens father who i have been with for 7 years but am not happy with. Or move on with my girlfriend.

Answer 1

Stay with your husband or stay out of relationships until your children are grown.

You have no right to drag your children through relationships. They love their father, not every person you drag up.

Answer 2

Well if i were you i would take baby steps....

First off you have to shake thoughts of being with your girlfriend for a little bit.... trying to manage more then one relationship ALWAYS turns out horrable....

Secondly, you need to sit down *without your girl friend in mind* and think about where you stand with your childs father... figure out if you want to stay or leave... this is a important decision and it needs to be made where you can have space to think and NO ONE can influace your desision... and you can think things threw

See if there is a way for you guys to stick together and work out your differances... to fall in love again or find middle ground... Every realationship has "dry spells" or ups and downs... If i were you i would make sure that its over and not just a bad period... You have to keep your kids in mind... Their lives are going to be affected as much as yours in this... what do you think they want?

If there is no way for you to make it work with your childrens father then move on... Although i wouldnt suggest jumping from the pan into the fire... spend some time alone *not living with someone else* so you can gain perspective on yourself... Not only that but your taking the peices of your life and tearing them all apart... you need to put them back together in a way that makes you feel as though your living your life the way you have always wanted to live it... and well you just have a easier time doing that when its just you and not when you have someone else to keep in mind... well other then your babies :)

Answer 3

Unfortunately for you.. Your life is now centered around your Children. What you want is irrelevant and meaningless where your children are concerned. A child needs two parents NOT a lesbian lover or some drunk acid popping SOB. Concentrate more on what is wrong with the current relationship and how to make it work with the father. The children come FIRST..not your happiness.. you forfitted that when you opened your legs.

Answer 4

There is only one person in this world who can make you happy - you and only you. You choose who to be with to make yourself happy right? Change is good for the soul. If you have an opportunity to make yourself happier why not take the chance? What have you got to lose or gain? You only live once and thats all the chance you get. Besides nothing in life is guaranteed.....Live life to the fullest and make choices that will make you a happier person this is what life is all about right???

Answer 5

Girlfriend.

Answer 6

I guess the big question is...why are you unhappy? If you're unhappy because you've been with him 7 years, and that's what happens typically...or is he not a good person?

I think everyone has the right to happiness. However, if the unhappiness is coming from within you, changing things doesn't change you.

Answer 7

I feel no one should stay in a relationship when their not happy but you don't need to really jump into anything either because your not alone you do have kids to consider. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Don't do anything until you think things through, this includes all the pros and cons.

Answer 9

think better

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